We certainly don't want to put you off registering with an online dating agency as they generally provide a useful and worthwhile service. Unfortunately, wherever there is honest business activity there will also be those who try to take advantage of you. The best way of avoiding these scams is to know about them, so we've summarised the main dating scams below.
Fake Services
There have been plenty of fake online dating services out there. Often these services are full of photographs of non-existent members and they aim to entice you into taking out a subscription using what are basically computer generated messages. Obviously these services don't last very long so the easiest way to avoid them is to use a well established service that's been around for a while.
Remember: If the photo looks like a clipping from a magazine shoot then it probably was.
Escort Services
If you look for a dating service using search engines then you may come across one of the many escort services dressed up as a dating site. These are often international sites with foreign ladies looking for American or European men. These sites are actually selling sex so they are mainly aimed at men. The last one we visited apparently offered Russian girls who were looking for American penpals or husbands. Very little digging was needed before we were being offered all inclusive VIP trips to Moscow where we would be 'entertained' by the 'lonely' girls we had been corresponding with.
Remember: If you are being offered sex you will probably be expected to pay for it (and don't count on taking delivery!)
Free Services
So called 'free' dating services have also appeared. Many are only free in the sense that they have free registration but charge for actually using the service. This is fine in itself but a few advertise themselves in a way that suggests they are completely free of any charges. We are not keen on this but it's more a dodgy bit of marketing than an outright attempt to steal from you.
These are also a few services that are genuinely free of direct charges. These may initially seem like an attractive idea but you will discover they are full of advertising, have many members who are clearly not at all sincere, and you may also find your inbox is bombarded with spam from all the advertisers your e-mail address has been sold to. The last completely free site we reviewed had a chat room in which we 'lurked' and discovered what appeared to be a group of teenage boys boasting about the rude and offensive messages they had been posting. They had been reported to moderators and their ability to send messages had been temporarily suspended. They agreed the new names they were about to reregister under and then disappeared.
Remember: If they will let you in for free, everyone and anyone else gets in for free as well.
Sweetheart Scams
Apart from problems with sites, you must also beware of individual scammers who join genuine sites to prey on the vulnerable. There is very little the dating sites can do about this as they change their identity and use fake photographs so beware of this even if you are using the most rigorously checked sites.
This particular type of scam comes in a number of flavours including:
- A fellow national working overseas (perhaps in Nigeria) for a few months who needs you to cash money orders for him.
- An overseas lady who loves exchanging messages with you but she urgenly needs money to pay her phone bill so she can keep in touch.
- A wonderful women who is desperate to come and see you but she needs money for medical bills because her beloved mother/sister is very ill.
- A gorgeous and uninhibited young lady (perhaps Russian) who is amazingly eager to come and fulfil all your fantasies once you send here the money for visa and travel expenses.
Collectively known as "sweetheart" scams, the aim of these is simple: to separate you from your money, preferable all of it by getting your banking details or getting you to cash counterfeit money orders that will rebound on you later. Usually the charming/attractive online date is out of the country, either living overseas or 'on business' so a face-to-face meeting is initially out of the question. Naturally the requests for money don't arrive until a relationship has been built (in some cases over several months!) and start with very small, modest and relatively harmless requests that you might feel silly to refuse. People running these scams are playing a 'long game' and are attempting to develop relationships with dozens of possible 'marks' at the same time. One of the characteristics of these is often the fact that return messages are not particularly attentive and do not use your screen name or refer to anything you said previously. This is because it's hard work keeping several internet relationships on the go so the scammer has standard messages that they can send out to everyone with minimal editing: a kind of 'keep em hooked' production line. These are particularly nasty scams as they have involved losses running into tens of thousands of dollars and they play on the needs of people who may be lonely and vulnerable.
Remember: A real date will not ask you for any financial gifts, favours or information.
Burglary
This is a 'shorter' game. You meet online, you get on well, he sends you gifts, you arrange to meet in a romantic restaurant for dinner. He sends a text to apologise because he is running half an hour late but please wait as he is desperate to meet you. At this point, he knows where you live (you gave him your home address so he could send gifts), that you live alone (it came up in the exchange of messages), and he knows where you are and exactly how long he has to clear your house out.
Remember: He doesn't need to know your home address. Gifts can be sent to you via your Amazon account and other online gift shops will usually let you supply the delivery address once he sends you the order number.
Call Charges
This is an even shorter game than burglary. The story goes as follows: You meet online, he/she sends you a phone number, you call them, they keep you on the phone for ages, your phone bill comes in, you're broke.
Apart from dating, the ease of setting up a premium rate telephone account has let to a number of telephone scams. One that appeared in the UK about a year involved a damsel in distress knocking at your door, explaining that her car had broken down and asking to borrow your phone. Before using it she would offer to pay for the call and you would, of course, refuse this (by doing this, the scammer made sure no charges could be pressed). She would then phone her husband at work and there would be a few delays with getting him to the phone and interruptions so the call would last five minutes. If you were so untrusting that you listened in, you'd hear the conversation with her and a secretary, colleague, husband, background voice interrupting etc. In fact she would have dialed a premium rate telephone number charging up to £150 a minute and be working to a memorised script as she talked to a 5 minutes long recorded message.
Remember: Always check the first few digits of a phone number on the internet to see what the call is going to cost you.
Clearly there are a lot of unscrupulous people out there and this kind of scam works. The British Office of Fair Trading estimates UK consumers lose around £1 billion pounds a year to scams of this kind. Fortunately it's possible to avoid most of these problems by (a) making yourself aware of them, (b) keeping realistic about what you are looking at and how much you know about the person you are messaging and (c) making sure you use a reputable and established dating service.
About The Author Valerie Catcheside is the editor of http://ScourTheWeb.info' s dating pages where you can find news, scam alerts, advice and online dating site reviews.
Wednesday, July 30, 2008
Online Dating Scams: Forewarned is Forearmed
We certainly don't want to put you off registering with an online dating agency as they generally provide a useful and worthwhile service. Unfortunately, wherever there is honest business activity there will also be those who try to take advantage of you. The best way of avoiding these scams is to know about them, so we've summarised the main dating scams below.
Fake Services
There have been plenty of fake online dating services out there. Often these services are full of photographs of non-existent members and they aim to entice you into taking out a subscription using what are basically computer generated messages. Obviously these services don't last very long so the easiest way to avoid them is to use a well established service that's been around for a while.
Remember: If the photo looks like a clipping from a magazine shoot then it probably was.
Escort Services
If you look for a dating service using search engines then you may come across one of the many escort services dressed up as a dating site. These are often international sites with foreign ladies looking for American or European men. These sites are actually selling sex so they are mainly aimed at men. The last one we visited apparently offered Russian girls who were looking for American penpals or husbands. Very little digging was needed before we were being offered all inclusive VIP trips to Moscow where we would be 'entertained' by the 'lonely' girls we had been corresponding with.
Remember: If you are being offered sex you will probably be expected to pay for it (and don't count on taking delivery!)
Free Services
So called 'free' dating services have also appeared. Many are only free in the sense that they have free registration but charge for actually using the service. This is fine in itself but a few advertise themselves in a way that suggests they are completely free of any charges. We are not keen on this but it's more a dodgy bit of marketing than an outright attempt to steal from you.
These are also a few services that are genuinely free of direct charges. These may initially seem like an attractive idea but you will discover they are full of advertising, have many members who are clearly not at all sincere, and you may also find your inbox is bombarded with spam from all the advertisers your e-mail address has been sold to. The last completely free site we reviewed had a chat room in which we 'lurked' and discovered what appeared to be a group of teenage boys boasting about the rude and offensive messages they had been posting. They had been reported to moderators and their ability to send messages had been temporarily suspended. They agreed the new names they were about to reregister under and then disappeared.
Remember: If they will let you in for free, everyone and anyone else gets in for free as well.
Sweetheart Scams
Apart from problems with sites, you must also beware of individual scammers who join genuine sites to prey on the vulnerable. There is very little the dating sites can do about this as they change their identity and use fake photographs so beware of this even if you are using the most rigorously checked sites.
This particular type of scam comes in a number of flavours including:
- A fellow national working overseas (perhaps in Nigeria) for a few months who needs you to cash money orders for him.
- An overseas lady who loves exchanging messages with you but she urgenly needs money to pay her phone bill so she can keep in touch.
- A wonderful women who is desperate to come and see you but she needs money for medical bills because her beloved mother/sister is very ill.
- A gorgeous and uninhibited young lady (perhaps Russian) who is amazingly eager to come and fulfil all your fantasies once you send here the money for visa and travel expenses.
Collectively known as "sweetheart" scams, the aim of these is simple: to separate you from your money, preferable all of it by getting your banking details or getting you to cash counterfeit money orders that will rebound on you later. Usually the charming/attractive online date is out of the country, either living overseas or 'on business' so a face-to-face meeting is initially out of the question. Naturally the requests for money don't arrive until a relationship has been built (in some cases over several months!) and start with very small, modest and relatively harmless requests that you might feel silly to refuse. People running these scams are playing a 'long game' and are attempting to develop relationships with dozens of possible 'marks' at the same time. One of the characteristics of these is often the fact that return messages are not particularly attentive and do not use your screen name or refer to anything you said previously. This is because it's hard work keeping several internet relationships on the go so the scammer has standard messages that they can send out to everyone with minimal editing: a kind of 'keep em hooked' production line. These are particularly nasty scams as they have involved losses running into tens of thousands of dollars and they play on the needs of people who may be lonely and vulnerable.
Remember: A real date will not ask you for any financial gifts, favours or information.
Burglary
This is a 'shorter' game. You meet online, you get on well, he sends you gifts, you arrange to meet in a romantic restaurant for dinner. He sends a text to apologise because he is running half an hour late but please wait as he is desperate to meet you. At this point, he knows where you live (you gave him your home address so he could send gifts), that you live alone (it came up in the exchange of messages), and he knows where you are and exactly how long he has to clear your house out.
Remember: He doesn't need to know your home address. Gifts can be sent to you via your Amazon account and other online gift shops will usually let you supply the delivery address once he sends you the order number.
Call Charges
This is an even shorter game than burglary. The story goes as follows: You meet online, he/she sends you a phone number, you call them, they keep you on the phone for ages, your phone bill comes in, you're broke.
Apart from dating, the ease of setting up a premium rate telephone account has let to a number of telephone scams. One that appeared in the UK about a year involved a damsel in distress knocking at your door, explaining that her car had broken down and asking to borrow your phone. Before using it she would offer to pay for the call and you would, of course, refuse this (by doing this, the scammer made sure no charges could be pressed). She would then phone her husband at work and there would be a few delays with getting him to the phone and interruptions so the call would last five minutes. If you were so untrusting that you listened in, you'd hear the conversation with her and a secretary, colleague, husband, background voice interrupting etc. In fact she would have dialed a premium rate telephone number charging up to £150 a minute and be working to a memorised script as she talked to a 5 minutes long recorded message.
Remember: Always check the first few digits of a phone number on the internet to see what the call is going to cost you.
Clearly there are a lot of unscrupulous people out there and this kind of scam works. The British Office of Fair Trading estimates UK consumers lose around £1 billion pounds a year to scams of this kind. Fortunately it's possible to avoid most of these problems by (a) making yourself aware of them, (b) keeping realistic about what you are looking at and how much you know about the person you are messaging and (c) making sure you use a reputable and established dating service.
About The Author Valerie Catcheside is the editor of http://ScourTheWeb.info' s dating pages where you can find news, scam alerts, advice and online dating site reviews.
Fake Services
There have been plenty of fake online dating services out there. Often these services are full of photographs of non-existent members and they aim to entice you into taking out a subscription using what are basically computer generated messages. Obviously these services don't last very long so the easiest way to avoid them is to use a well established service that's been around for a while.
Remember: If the photo looks like a clipping from a magazine shoot then it probably was.
Escort Services
If you look for a dating service using search engines then you may come across one of the many escort services dressed up as a dating site. These are often international sites with foreign ladies looking for American or European men. These sites are actually selling sex so they are mainly aimed at men. The last one we visited apparently offered Russian girls who were looking for American penpals or husbands. Very little digging was needed before we were being offered all inclusive VIP trips to Moscow where we would be 'entertained' by the 'lonely' girls we had been corresponding with.
Remember: If you are being offered sex you will probably be expected to pay for it (and don't count on taking delivery!)
Free Services
So called 'free' dating services have also appeared. Many are only free in the sense that they have free registration but charge for actually using the service. This is fine in itself but a few advertise themselves in a way that suggests they are completely free of any charges. We are not keen on this but it's more a dodgy bit of marketing than an outright attempt to steal from you.
These are also a few services that are genuinely free of direct charges. These may initially seem like an attractive idea but you will discover they are full of advertising, have many members who are clearly not at all sincere, and you may also find your inbox is bombarded with spam from all the advertisers your e-mail address has been sold to. The last completely free site we reviewed had a chat room in which we 'lurked' and discovered what appeared to be a group of teenage boys boasting about the rude and offensive messages they had been posting. They had been reported to moderators and their ability to send messages had been temporarily suspended. They agreed the new names they were about to reregister under and then disappeared.
Remember: If they will let you in for free, everyone and anyone else gets in for free as well.
Sweetheart Scams
Apart from problems with sites, you must also beware of individual scammers who join genuine sites to prey on the vulnerable. There is very little the dating sites can do about this as they change their identity and use fake photographs so beware of this even if you are using the most rigorously checked sites.
This particular type of scam comes in a number of flavours including:
- A fellow national working overseas (perhaps in Nigeria) for a few months who needs you to cash money orders for him.
- An overseas lady who loves exchanging messages with you but she urgenly needs money to pay her phone bill so she can keep in touch.
- A wonderful women who is desperate to come and see you but she needs money for medical bills because her beloved mother/sister is very ill.
- A gorgeous and uninhibited young lady (perhaps Russian) who is amazingly eager to come and fulfil all your fantasies once you send here the money for visa and travel expenses.
Collectively known as "sweetheart" scams, the aim of these is simple: to separate you from your money, preferable all of it by getting your banking details or getting you to cash counterfeit money orders that will rebound on you later. Usually the charming/attractive online date is out of the country, either living overseas or 'on business' so a face-to-face meeting is initially out of the question. Naturally the requests for money don't arrive until a relationship has been built (in some cases over several months!) and start with very small, modest and relatively harmless requests that you might feel silly to refuse. People running these scams are playing a 'long game' and are attempting to develop relationships with dozens of possible 'marks' at the same time. One of the characteristics of these is often the fact that return messages are not particularly attentive and do not use your screen name or refer to anything you said previously. This is because it's hard work keeping several internet relationships on the go so the scammer has standard messages that they can send out to everyone with minimal editing: a kind of 'keep em hooked' production line. These are particularly nasty scams as they have involved losses running into tens of thousands of dollars and they play on the needs of people who may be lonely and vulnerable.
Remember: A real date will not ask you for any financial gifts, favours or information.
Burglary
This is a 'shorter' game. You meet online, you get on well, he sends you gifts, you arrange to meet in a romantic restaurant for dinner. He sends a text to apologise because he is running half an hour late but please wait as he is desperate to meet you. At this point, he knows where you live (you gave him your home address so he could send gifts), that you live alone (it came up in the exchange of messages), and he knows where you are and exactly how long he has to clear your house out.
Remember: He doesn't need to know your home address. Gifts can be sent to you via your Amazon account and other online gift shops will usually let you supply the delivery address once he sends you the order number.
Call Charges
This is an even shorter game than burglary. The story goes as follows: You meet online, he/she sends you a phone number, you call them, they keep you on the phone for ages, your phone bill comes in, you're broke.
Apart from dating, the ease of setting up a premium rate telephone account has let to a number of telephone scams. One that appeared in the UK about a year involved a damsel in distress knocking at your door, explaining that her car had broken down and asking to borrow your phone. Before using it she would offer to pay for the call and you would, of course, refuse this (by doing this, the scammer made sure no charges could be pressed). She would then phone her husband at work and there would be a few delays with getting him to the phone and interruptions so the call would last five minutes. If you were so untrusting that you listened in, you'd hear the conversation with her and a secretary, colleague, husband, background voice interrupting etc. In fact she would have dialed a premium rate telephone number charging up to £150 a minute and be working to a memorised script as she talked to a 5 minutes long recorded message.
Remember: Always check the first few digits of a phone number on the internet to see what the call is going to cost you.
Clearly there are a lot of unscrupulous people out there and this kind of scam works. The British Office of Fair Trading estimates UK consumers lose around £1 billion pounds a year to scams of this kind. Fortunately it's possible to avoid most of these problems by (a) making yourself aware of them, (b) keeping realistic about what you are looking at and how much you know about the person you are messaging and (c) making sure you use a reputable and established dating service.
About The Author Valerie Catcheside is the editor of http://ScourTheWeb.info' s dating pages where you can find news, scam alerts, advice and online dating site reviews.
Online Dating Scams: Forewarned is Forearmed
We certainly don't want to put you off registering with an online dating agency as they generally provide a useful and worthwhile service. Unfortunately, wherever there is honest business activity there will also be those who try to take advantage of you. The best way of avoiding these scams is to know about them, so we've summarised the main dating scams below.
Fake Services
There have been plenty of fake online dating services out there. Often these services are full of photographs of non-existent members and they aim to entice you into taking out a subscription using what are basically computer generated messages. Obviously these services don't last very long so the easiest way to avoid them is to use a well established service that's been around for a while.
Remember: If the photo looks like a clipping from a magazine shoot then it probably was.
Escort Services
If you look for a dating service using search engines then you may come across one of the many escort services dressed up as a dating site. These are often international sites with foreign ladies looking for American or European men. These sites are actually selling sex so they are mainly aimed at men. The last one we visited apparently offered Russian girls who were looking for American penpals or husbands. Very little digging was needed before we were being offered all inclusive VIP trips to Moscow where we would be 'entertained' by the 'lonely' girls we had been corresponding with.
Remember: If you are being offered sex you will probably be expected to pay for it (and don't count on taking delivery!)
Free Services
So called 'free' dating services have also appeared. Many are only free in the sense that they have free registration but charge for actually using the service. This is fine in itself but a few advertise themselves in a way that suggests they are completely free of any charges. We are not keen on this but it's more a dodgy bit of marketing than an outright attempt to steal from you.
These are also a few services that are genuinely free of direct charges. These may initially seem like an attractive idea but you will discover they are full of advertising, have many members who are clearly not at all sincere, and you may also find your inbox is bombarded with spam from all the advertisers your e-mail address has been sold to. The last completely free site we reviewed had a chat room in which we 'lurked' and discovered what appeared to be a group of teenage boys boasting about the rude and offensive messages they had been posting. They had been reported to moderators and their ability to send messages had been temporarily suspended. They agreed the new names they were about to reregister under and then disappeared.
Remember: If they will let you in for free, everyone and anyone else gets in for free as well.
Sweetheart Scams
Apart from problems with sites, you must also beware of individual scammers who join genuine sites to prey on the vulnerable. There is very little the dating sites can do about this as they change their identity and use fake photographs so beware of this even if you are using the most rigorously checked sites.
This particular type of scam comes in a number of flavours including:
- A fellow national working overseas (perhaps in Nigeria) for a few months who needs you to cash money orders for him.
- An overseas lady who loves exchanging messages with you but she urgenly needs money to pay her phone bill so she can keep in touch.
- A wonderful women who is desperate to come and see you but she needs money for medical bills because her beloved mother/sister is very ill.
- A gorgeous and uninhibited young lady (perhaps Russian) who is amazingly eager to come and fulfil all your fantasies once you send here the money for visa and travel expenses.
Collectively known as "sweetheart" scams, the aim of these is simple: to separate you from your money, preferable all of it by getting your banking details or getting you to cash counterfeit money orders that will rebound on you later. Usually the charming/attractive online date is out of the country, either living overseas or 'on business' so a face-to-face meeting is initially out of the question. Naturally the requests for money don't arrive until a relationship has been built (in some cases over several months!) and start with very small, modest and relatively harmless requests that you might feel silly to refuse. People running these scams are playing a 'long game' and are attempting to develop relationships with dozens of possible 'marks' at the same time. One of the characteristics of these is often the fact that return messages are not particularly attentive and do not use your screen name or refer to anything you said previously. This is because it's hard work keeping several internet relationships on the go so the scammer has standard messages that they can send out to everyone with minimal editing: a kind of 'keep em hooked' production line. These are particularly nasty scams as they have involved losses running into tens of thousands of dollars and they play on the needs of people who may be lonely and vulnerable.
Remember: A real date will not ask you for any financial gifts, favours or information.
Burglary
This is a 'shorter' game. You meet online, you get on well, he sends you gifts, you arrange to meet in a romantic restaurant for dinner. He sends a text to apologise because he is running half an hour late but please wait as he is desperate to meet you. At this point, he knows where you live (you gave him your home address so he could send gifts), that you live alone (it came up in the exchange of messages), and he knows where you are and exactly how long he has to clear your house out.
Remember: He doesn't need to know your home address. Gifts can be sent to you via your Amazon account and other online gift shops will usually let you supply the delivery address once he sends you the order number.
Call Charges
This is an even shorter game than burglary. The story goes as follows: You meet online, he/she sends you a phone number, you call them, they keep you on the phone for ages, your phone bill comes in, you're broke.
Apart from dating, the ease of setting up a premium rate telephone account has let to a number of telephone scams. One that appeared in the UK about a year involved a damsel in distress knocking at your door, explaining that her car had broken down and asking to borrow your phone. Before using it she would offer to pay for the call and you would, of course, refuse this (by doing this, the scammer made sure no charges could be pressed). She would then phone her husband at work and there would be a few delays with getting him to the phone and interruptions so the call would last five minutes. If you were so untrusting that you listened in, you'd hear the conversation with her and a secretary, colleague, husband, background voice interrupting etc. In fact she would have dialed a premium rate telephone number charging up to £150 a minute and be working to a memorised script as she talked to a 5 minutes long recorded message.
Remember: Always check the first few digits of a phone number on the internet to see what the call is going to cost you.
Clearly there are a lot of unscrupulous people out there and this kind of scam works. The British Office of Fair Trading estimates UK consumers lose around £1 billion pounds a year to scams of this kind. Fortunately it's possible to avoid most of these problems by (a) making yourself aware of them, (b) keeping realistic about what you are looking at and how much you know about the person you are messaging and (c) making sure you use a reputable and established dating service.
About The Author Valerie Catcheside is the editor of http://ScourTheWeb.info' s dating pages where you can find news, scam alerts, advice and online dating site reviews.
Fake Services
There have been plenty of fake online dating services out there. Often these services are full of photographs of non-existent members and they aim to entice you into taking out a subscription using what are basically computer generated messages. Obviously these services don't last very long so the easiest way to avoid them is to use a well established service that's been around for a while.
Remember: If the photo looks like a clipping from a magazine shoot then it probably was.
Escort Services
If you look for a dating service using search engines then you may come across one of the many escort services dressed up as a dating site. These are often international sites with foreign ladies looking for American or European men. These sites are actually selling sex so they are mainly aimed at men. The last one we visited apparently offered Russian girls who were looking for American penpals or husbands. Very little digging was needed before we were being offered all inclusive VIP trips to Moscow where we would be 'entertained' by the 'lonely' girls we had been corresponding with.
Remember: If you are being offered sex you will probably be expected to pay for it (and don't count on taking delivery!)
Free Services
So called 'free' dating services have also appeared. Many are only free in the sense that they have free registration but charge for actually using the service. This is fine in itself but a few advertise themselves in a way that suggests they are completely free of any charges. We are not keen on this but it's more a dodgy bit of marketing than an outright attempt to steal from you.
These are also a few services that are genuinely free of direct charges. These may initially seem like an attractive idea but you will discover they are full of advertising, have many members who are clearly not at all sincere, and you may also find your inbox is bombarded with spam from all the advertisers your e-mail address has been sold to. The last completely free site we reviewed had a chat room in which we 'lurked' and discovered what appeared to be a group of teenage boys boasting about the rude and offensive messages they had been posting. They had been reported to moderators and their ability to send messages had been temporarily suspended. They agreed the new names they were about to reregister under and then disappeared.
Remember: If they will let you in for free, everyone and anyone else gets in for free as well.
Sweetheart Scams
Apart from problems with sites, you must also beware of individual scammers who join genuine sites to prey on the vulnerable. There is very little the dating sites can do about this as they change their identity and use fake photographs so beware of this even if you are using the most rigorously checked sites.
This particular type of scam comes in a number of flavours including:
- A fellow national working overseas (perhaps in Nigeria) for a few months who needs you to cash money orders for him.
- An overseas lady who loves exchanging messages with you but she urgenly needs money to pay her phone bill so she can keep in touch.
- A wonderful women who is desperate to come and see you but she needs money for medical bills because her beloved mother/sister is very ill.
- A gorgeous and uninhibited young lady (perhaps Russian) who is amazingly eager to come and fulfil all your fantasies once you send here the money for visa and travel expenses.
Collectively known as "sweetheart" scams, the aim of these is simple: to separate you from your money, preferable all of it by getting your banking details or getting you to cash counterfeit money orders that will rebound on you later. Usually the charming/attractive online date is out of the country, either living overseas or 'on business' so a face-to-face meeting is initially out of the question. Naturally the requests for money don't arrive until a relationship has been built (in some cases over several months!) and start with very small, modest and relatively harmless requests that you might feel silly to refuse. People running these scams are playing a 'long game' and are attempting to develop relationships with dozens of possible 'marks' at the same time. One of the characteristics of these is often the fact that return messages are not particularly attentive and do not use your screen name or refer to anything you said previously. This is because it's hard work keeping several internet relationships on the go so the scammer has standard messages that they can send out to everyone with minimal editing: a kind of 'keep em hooked' production line. These are particularly nasty scams as they have involved losses running into tens of thousands of dollars and they play on the needs of people who may be lonely and vulnerable.
Remember: A real date will not ask you for any financial gifts, favours or information.
Burglary
This is a 'shorter' game. You meet online, you get on well, he sends you gifts, you arrange to meet in a romantic restaurant for dinner. He sends a text to apologise because he is running half an hour late but please wait as he is desperate to meet you. At this point, he knows where you live (you gave him your home address so he could send gifts), that you live alone (it came up in the exchange of messages), and he knows where you are and exactly how long he has to clear your house out.
Remember: He doesn't need to know your home address. Gifts can be sent to you via your Amazon account and other online gift shops will usually let you supply the delivery address once he sends you the order number.
Call Charges
This is an even shorter game than burglary. The story goes as follows: You meet online, he/she sends you a phone number, you call them, they keep you on the phone for ages, your phone bill comes in, you're broke.
Apart from dating, the ease of setting up a premium rate telephone account has let to a number of telephone scams. One that appeared in the UK about a year involved a damsel in distress knocking at your door, explaining that her car had broken down and asking to borrow your phone. Before using it she would offer to pay for the call and you would, of course, refuse this (by doing this, the scammer made sure no charges could be pressed). She would then phone her husband at work and there would be a few delays with getting him to the phone and interruptions so the call would last five minutes. If you were so untrusting that you listened in, you'd hear the conversation with her and a secretary, colleague, husband, background voice interrupting etc. In fact she would have dialed a premium rate telephone number charging up to £150 a minute and be working to a memorised script as she talked to a 5 minutes long recorded message.
Remember: Always check the first few digits of a phone number on the internet to see what the call is going to cost you.
Clearly there are a lot of unscrupulous people out there and this kind of scam works. The British Office of Fair Trading estimates UK consumers lose around £1 billion pounds a year to scams of this kind. Fortunately it's possible to avoid most of these problems by (a) making yourself aware of them, (b) keeping realistic about what you are looking at and how much you know about the person you are messaging and (c) making sure you use a reputable and established dating service.
About The Author Valerie Catcheside is the editor of http://ScourTheWeb.info' s dating pages where you can find news, scam alerts, advice and online dating site reviews.
Online Dating Scams: Forewarned is Forearmed
We certainly don't want to put you off registering with an online dating agency as they generally provide a useful and worthwhile service. Unfortunately, wherever there is honest business activity there will also be those who try to take advantage of you. The best way of avoiding these scams is to know about them, so we've summarised the main dating scams below.
Fake Services
There have been plenty of fake online dating services out there. Often these services are full of photographs of non-existent members and they aim to entice you into taking out a subscription using what are basically computer generated messages. Obviously these services don't last very long so the easiest way to avoid them is to use a well established service that's been around for a while.
Remember: If the photo looks like a clipping from a magazine shoot then it probably was.
Escort Services
If you look for a dating service using search engines then you may come across one of the many escort services dressed up as a dating site. These are often international sites with foreign ladies looking for American or European men. These sites are actually selling sex so they are mainly aimed at men. The last one we visited apparently offered Russian girls who were looking for American penpals or husbands. Very little digging was needed before we were being offered all inclusive VIP trips to Moscow where we would be 'entertained' by the 'lonely' girls we had been corresponding with.
Remember: If you are being offered sex you will probably be expected to pay for it (and don't count on taking delivery!)
Free Services
So called 'free' dating services have also appeared. Many are only free in the sense that they have free registration but charge for actually using the service. This is fine in itself but a few advertise themselves in a way that suggests they are completely free of any charges. We are not keen on this but it's more a dodgy bit of marketing than an outright attempt to steal from you.
These are also a few services that are genuinely free of direct charges. These may initially seem like an attractive idea but you will discover they are full of advertising, have many members who are clearly not at all sincere, and you may also find your inbox is bombarded with spam from all the advertisers your e-mail address has been sold to. The last completely free site we reviewed had a chat room in which we 'lurked' and discovered what appeared to be a group of teenage boys boasting about the rude and offensive messages they had been posting. They had been reported to moderators and their ability to send messages had been temporarily suspended. They agreed the new names they were about to reregister under and then disappeared.
Remember: If they will let you in for free, everyone and anyone else gets in for free as well.
Sweetheart Scams
Apart from problems with sites, you must also beware of individual scammers who join genuine sites to prey on the vulnerable. There is very little the dating sites can do about this as they change their identity and use fake photographs so beware of this even if you are using the most rigorously checked sites.
This particular type of scam comes in a number of flavours including:
- A fellow national working overseas (perhaps in Nigeria) for a few months who needs you to cash money orders for him.
- An overseas lady who loves exchanging messages with you but she urgenly needs money to pay her phone bill so she can keep in touch.
- A wonderful women who is desperate to come and see you but she needs money for medical bills because her beloved mother/sister is very ill.
- A gorgeous and uninhibited young lady (perhaps Russian) who is amazingly eager to come and fulfil all your fantasies once you send here the money for visa and travel expenses.
Collectively known as "sweetheart" scams, the aim of these is simple: to separate you from your money, preferable all of it by getting your banking details or getting you to cash counterfeit money orders that will rebound on you later. Usually the charming/attractive online date is out of the country, either living overseas or 'on business' so a face-to-face meeting is initially out of the question. Naturally the requests for money don't arrive until a relationship has been built (in some cases over several months!) and start with very small, modest and relatively harmless requests that you might feel silly to refuse. People running these scams are playing a 'long game' and are attempting to develop relationships with dozens of possible 'marks' at the same time. One of the characteristics of these is often the fact that return messages are not particularly attentive and do not use your screen name or refer to anything you said previously. This is because it's hard work keeping several internet relationships on the go so the scammer has standard messages that they can send out to everyone with minimal editing: a kind of 'keep em hooked' production line. These are particularly nasty scams as they have involved losses running into tens of thousands of dollars and they play on the needs of people who may be lonely and vulnerable.
Remember: A real date will not ask you for any financial gifts, favours or information.
Burglary
This is a 'shorter' game. You meet online, you get on well, he sends you gifts, you arrange to meet in a romantic restaurant for dinner. He sends a text to apologise because he is running half an hour late but please wait as he is desperate to meet you. At this point, he knows where you live (you gave him your home address so he could send gifts), that you live alone (it came up in the exchange of messages), and he knows where you are and exactly how long he has to clear your house out.
Remember: He doesn't need to know your home address. Gifts can be sent to you via your Amazon account and other online gift shops will usually let you supply the delivery address once he sends you the order number.
Call Charges
This is an even shorter game than burglary. The story goes as follows: You meet online, he/she sends you a phone number, you call them, they keep you on the phone for ages, your phone bill comes in, you're broke.
Apart from dating, the ease of setting up a premium rate telephone account has let to a number of telephone scams. One that appeared in the UK about a year involved a damsel in distress knocking at your door, explaining that her car had broken down and asking to borrow your phone. Before using it she would offer to pay for the call and you would, of course, refuse this (by doing this, the scammer made sure no charges could be pressed). She would then phone her husband at work and there would be a few delays with getting him to the phone and interruptions so the call would last five minutes. If you were so untrusting that you listened in, you'd hear the conversation with her and a secretary, colleague, husband, background voice interrupting etc. In fact she would have dialed a premium rate telephone number charging up to £150 a minute and be working to a memorised script as she talked to a 5 minutes long recorded message.
Remember: Always check the first few digits of a phone number on the internet to see what the call is going to cost you.
Clearly there are a lot of unscrupulous people out there and this kind of scam works. The British Office of Fair Trading estimates UK consumers lose around £1 billion pounds a year to scams of this kind. Fortunately it's possible to avoid most of these problems by (a) making yourself aware of them, (b) keeping realistic about what you are looking at and how much you know about the person you are messaging and (c) making sure you use a reputable and established dating service.
About The Author Valerie Catcheside is the editor of http://ScourTheWeb.info' s dating pages where you can find news, scam alerts, advice and online dating site reviews.
Fake Services
There have been plenty of fake online dating services out there. Often these services are full of photographs of non-existent members and they aim to entice you into taking out a subscription using what are basically computer generated messages. Obviously these services don't last very long so the easiest way to avoid them is to use a well established service that's been around for a while.
Remember: If the photo looks like a clipping from a magazine shoot then it probably was.
Escort Services
If you look for a dating service using search engines then you may come across one of the many escort services dressed up as a dating site. These are often international sites with foreign ladies looking for American or European men. These sites are actually selling sex so they are mainly aimed at men. The last one we visited apparently offered Russian girls who were looking for American penpals or husbands. Very little digging was needed before we were being offered all inclusive VIP trips to Moscow where we would be 'entertained' by the 'lonely' girls we had been corresponding with.
Remember: If you are being offered sex you will probably be expected to pay for it (and don't count on taking delivery!)
Free Services
So called 'free' dating services have also appeared. Many are only free in the sense that they have free registration but charge for actually using the service. This is fine in itself but a few advertise themselves in a way that suggests they are completely free of any charges. We are not keen on this but it's more a dodgy bit of marketing than an outright attempt to steal from you.
These are also a few services that are genuinely free of direct charges. These may initially seem like an attractive idea but you will discover they are full of advertising, have many members who are clearly not at all sincere, and you may also find your inbox is bombarded with spam from all the advertisers your e-mail address has been sold to. The last completely free site we reviewed had a chat room in which we 'lurked' and discovered what appeared to be a group of teenage boys boasting about the rude and offensive messages they had been posting. They had been reported to moderators and their ability to send messages had been temporarily suspended. They agreed the new names they were about to reregister under and then disappeared.
Remember: If they will let you in for free, everyone and anyone else gets in for free as well.
Sweetheart Scams
Apart from problems with sites, you must also beware of individual scammers who join genuine sites to prey on the vulnerable. There is very little the dating sites can do about this as they change their identity and use fake photographs so beware of this even if you are using the most rigorously checked sites.
This particular type of scam comes in a number of flavours including:
- A fellow national working overseas (perhaps in Nigeria) for a few months who needs you to cash money orders for him.
- An overseas lady who loves exchanging messages with you but she urgenly needs money to pay her phone bill so she can keep in touch.
- A wonderful women who is desperate to come and see you but she needs money for medical bills because her beloved mother/sister is very ill.
- A gorgeous and uninhibited young lady (perhaps Russian) who is amazingly eager to come and fulfil all your fantasies once you send here the money for visa and travel expenses.
Collectively known as "sweetheart" scams, the aim of these is simple: to separate you from your money, preferable all of it by getting your banking details or getting you to cash counterfeit money orders that will rebound on you later. Usually the charming/attractive online date is out of the country, either living overseas or 'on business' so a face-to-face meeting is initially out of the question. Naturally the requests for money don't arrive until a relationship has been built (in some cases over several months!) and start with very small, modest and relatively harmless requests that you might feel silly to refuse. People running these scams are playing a 'long game' and are attempting to develop relationships with dozens of possible 'marks' at the same time. One of the characteristics of these is often the fact that return messages are not particularly attentive and do not use your screen name or refer to anything you said previously. This is because it's hard work keeping several internet relationships on the go so the scammer has standard messages that they can send out to everyone with minimal editing: a kind of 'keep em hooked' production line. These are particularly nasty scams as they have involved losses running into tens of thousands of dollars and they play on the needs of people who may be lonely and vulnerable.
Remember: A real date will not ask you for any financial gifts, favours or information.
Burglary
This is a 'shorter' game. You meet online, you get on well, he sends you gifts, you arrange to meet in a romantic restaurant for dinner. He sends a text to apologise because he is running half an hour late but please wait as he is desperate to meet you. At this point, he knows where you live (you gave him your home address so he could send gifts), that you live alone (it came up in the exchange of messages), and he knows where you are and exactly how long he has to clear your house out.
Remember: He doesn't need to know your home address. Gifts can be sent to you via your Amazon account and other online gift shops will usually let you supply the delivery address once he sends you the order number.
Call Charges
This is an even shorter game than burglary. The story goes as follows: You meet online, he/she sends you a phone number, you call them, they keep you on the phone for ages, your phone bill comes in, you're broke.
Apart from dating, the ease of setting up a premium rate telephone account has let to a number of telephone scams. One that appeared in the UK about a year involved a damsel in distress knocking at your door, explaining that her car had broken down and asking to borrow your phone. Before using it she would offer to pay for the call and you would, of course, refuse this (by doing this, the scammer made sure no charges could be pressed). She would then phone her husband at work and there would be a few delays with getting him to the phone and interruptions so the call would last five minutes. If you were so untrusting that you listened in, you'd hear the conversation with her and a secretary, colleague, husband, background voice interrupting etc. In fact she would have dialed a premium rate telephone number charging up to £150 a minute and be working to a memorised script as she talked to a 5 minutes long recorded message.
Remember: Always check the first few digits of a phone number on the internet to see what the call is going to cost you.
Clearly there are a lot of unscrupulous people out there and this kind of scam works. The British Office of Fair Trading estimates UK consumers lose around £1 billion pounds a year to scams of this kind. Fortunately it's possible to avoid most of these problems by (a) making yourself aware of them, (b) keeping realistic about what you are looking at and how much you know about the person you are messaging and (c) making sure you use a reputable and established dating service.
About The Author Valerie Catcheside is the editor of http://ScourTheWeb.info' s dating pages where you can find news, scam alerts, advice and online dating site reviews.
Prescription For Lasting Love
Statistics show that marriages are ending at an alarming rate and that the length of the average marriage is now under seven years. Why are today’s marriages not working? Why are relationships so stressful, difficult and unsatisfying for so many people? I believe it’s due to bad match-ups. If you marry someone with whom you are not well suited, the road to happiness is a very hard one.
So what can you do to turn this unhappiness around? The answer is to pay attention when choosing your life partner. Love and physical attraction are never enough. A strong relationship needs compatibility and commitment from both partners. Compatibly is more than just having the same interests, likes and dislikes; it’s wanting the same things out of life and having the same belief systems. Finding a partner whom you love and with whom you are compatible is the prescription for a healthy, lasting relationship.
It is your responsibility not only to yourself but to your future children to choose your life partner with care. Enduring difficult personal relationships can create much unhappiness and chaos and can be traumatic for everyone involved. The end of a marriage (or a long-term relationship) involves grief, and unfortunately children end up the big losers if the damage is passed along to them.
We want to share our lives with someone with whom we can connect on the deepest level and enjoy a true sense of partnership. We all deserve someone who will treasure, love, protect, admire, support and adore us.
The following 19 steps can help you find your soulmate and achieve relationship success:
1. Be good to yourself. By practicing self-love you become a magnet to your soulmate. If you don’t love yourself first, how is anyone else going to love you?
2. Confidence is beautiful. To be successful in finding true love, you need to be confident. You are more likely to attract the right love if you are fulfilled.
3. Find happiness in yourself. You can’t be completely happy in a relationship until you are happy with yourself and your life. Remember that your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Change starts from the inside out.
4. Nurture your spiritual side. You should be emotionally and spiritually prepared to bring in your soulmate.
5. Know yourself well. Before choosing a lifelong partner, know what your dreams are and what you need to be happy. You are responsible for creating the quality of your life.
6. Stay true to your values. Never compromise your values for anyone. By staying true to your values, you protect yourself from unnecessary pain.
7. Never select a mate out of need. Do not choose a mate out of loneliness, financial insecurity or fear of the future. When you are feeling negative about yourself or your life, you are very likely to make the wrong choice.
8. True love comes to those who wait. Keep in mind that destiny has its own timetable—you must be patient. Always keep your eyes on the prize. If you settle for second best, you will miss out on your perfect match. Be patient. Sometimes is seems that you’ll never find your soulmate. There may be lessons you need to learn before you are ready. The faster you do your inner work and become the person you want to attract, the faster you will connect with your beloved.
9. You deserve to be happy. So what if you are not perfect? No human being is. Always assume that you are worthwhile and accept yourself as you are.
10. Ignorance is not bliss. Get to know someone well before you jump into a relationship. The more information you have, the better you’ll be able to judge whether or not this person will make a good life partner.
11. In order to love well, we must be emotionally mature. Relationships are successful only when both partners are mature enough to see that a good relationship is built on mutual trust and attention to each other’s wants and needs.
12. Build relationship skills that make marriage work. Educate yourself. There are hundreds of great relationship books—pick one up.
13. Prepare yourself for a committed relationship. If you want to find someone special to love and to be loved back in return, you need to prepare for it.
14. To receive healthy love, you have to be healthy. Your relationship isn’t going to go smoothly if you’re not well and at peace with yourself. By being healthy in body, mind and spirit, you will attract a high-quality relationship.
15. Breaking up is hard to do. But if you are not happy, respected and fulfilled in your present relationship, it might be time to end it. Free each other so you can find more compatible mates.
16. Never ignore or justify the warning signs of possible problems. These warning signs are there for you to take notice.
17. Become the person you want to attract. Like attracts like. If you wish to attract a loving, respectful and considerate person, then you have to become a loving, respectful and considerate person.
18. Avoid having sex before commitment. The best way to test a relationship’s potential is to postpone having sex. It becomes harder to be objective about a relationship if you become sexually intimate too soon.
19. Don’t feel bad about not having met you soulmate yet. Get excited instead. You have something wonderful to look forward to.
Connecting with you soulmate is not as difficult as many of us believe. The only thing stopping you from being with your meant-to-be love is you. Make the necessary changes in your life and remember that awareness is the first step to change. Accept that where you are right now is the result of choices you have made in the past, and where you will be in the future depends on the choices you make now.
Your fate is in your hands. Only you can make the choices that support your happiness. Once you become aware of what you are doing and why, you can begin to change your behaviour.
Love and blessings, Joanne B. Parrotta Author of: A Matter of Destiny http://www.amatterofdestiny.com
About The Author Motivational writer Joanne B. Parrotta is the author of “A Matter of Destiny: How to Find and Marry Your Soulmate: A Beginner’s Spiritual Guide (BookSurge Publishing, an amazon.com company, 2006).” To learn more about this fascinating subject and to sign up for you’re FREE instantly down loadable soulmate reports, visit her website at: http://www.amatterofdestiny.com.
So what can you do to turn this unhappiness around? The answer is to pay attention when choosing your life partner. Love and physical attraction are never enough. A strong relationship needs compatibility and commitment from both partners. Compatibly is more than just having the same interests, likes and dislikes; it’s wanting the same things out of life and having the same belief systems. Finding a partner whom you love and with whom you are compatible is the prescription for a healthy, lasting relationship.
It is your responsibility not only to yourself but to your future children to choose your life partner with care. Enduring difficult personal relationships can create much unhappiness and chaos and can be traumatic for everyone involved. The end of a marriage (or a long-term relationship) involves grief, and unfortunately children end up the big losers if the damage is passed along to them.
We want to share our lives with someone with whom we can connect on the deepest level and enjoy a true sense of partnership. We all deserve someone who will treasure, love, protect, admire, support and adore us.
The following 19 steps can help you find your soulmate and achieve relationship success:
1. Be good to yourself. By practicing self-love you become a magnet to your soulmate. If you don’t love yourself first, how is anyone else going to love you?
2. Confidence is beautiful. To be successful in finding true love, you need to be confident. You are more likely to attract the right love if you are fulfilled.
3. Find happiness in yourself. You can’t be completely happy in a relationship until you are happy with yourself and your life. Remember that your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Change starts from the inside out.
4. Nurture your spiritual side. You should be emotionally and spiritually prepared to bring in your soulmate.
5. Know yourself well. Before choosing a lifelong partner, know what your dreams are and what you need to be happy. You are responsible for creating the quality of your life.
6. Stay true to your values. Never compromise your values for anyone. By staying true to your values, you protect yourself from unnecessary pain.
7. Never select a mate out of need. Do not choose a mate out of loneliness, financial insecurity or fear of the future. When you are feeling negative about yourself or your life, you are very likely to make the wrong choice.
8. True love comes to those who wait. Keep in mind that destiny has its own timetable—you must be patient. Always keep your eyes on the prize. If you settle for second best, you will miss out on your perfect match. Be patient. Sometimes is seems that you’ll never find your soulmate. There may be lessons you need to learn before you are ready. The faster you do your inner work and become the person you want to attract, the faster you will connect with your beloved.
9. You deserve to be happy. So what if you are not perfect? No human being is. Always assume that you are worthwhile and accept yourself as you are.
10. Ignorance is not bliss. Get to know someone well before you jump into a relationship. The more information you have, the better you’ll be able to judge whether or not this person will make a good life partner.
11. In order to love well, we must be emotionally mature. Relationships are successful only when both partners are mature enough to see that a good relationship is built on mutual trust and attention to each other’s wants and needs.
12. Build relationship skills that make marriage work. Educate yourself. There are hundreds of great relationship books—pick one up.
13. Prepare yourself for a committed relationship. If you want to find someone special to love and to be loved back in return, you need to prepare for it.
14. To receive healthy love, you have to be healthy. Your relationship isn’t going to go smoothly if you’re not well and at peace with yourself. By being healthy in body, mind and spirit, you will attract a high-quality relationship.
15. Breaking up is hard to do. But if you are not happy, respected and fulfilled in your present relationship, it might be time to end it. Free each other so you can find more compatible mates.
16. Never ignore or justify the warning signs of possible problems. These warning signs are there for you to take notice.
17. Become the person you want to attract. Like attracts like. If you wish to attract a loving, respectful and considerate person, then you have to become a loving, respectful and considerate person.
18. Avoid having sex before commitment. The best way to test a relationship’s potential is to postpone having sex. It becomes harder to be objective about a relationship if you become sexually intimate too soon.
19. Don’t feel bad about not having met you soulmate yet. Get excited instead. You have something wonderful to look forward to.
Connecting with you soulmate is not as difficult as many of us believe. The only thing stopping you from being with your meant-to-be love is you. Make the necessary changes in your life and remember that awareness is the first step to change. Accept that where you are right now is the result of choices you have made in the past, and where you will be in the future depends on the choices you make now.
Your fate is in your hands. Only you can make the choices that support your happiness. Once you become aware of what you are doing and why, you can begin to change your behaviour.
Love and blessings, Joanne B. Parrotta Author of: A Matter of Destiny http://www.amatterofdestiny.com
About The Author Motivational writer Joanne B. Parrotta is the author of “A Matter of Destiny: How to Find and Marry Your Soulmate: A Beginner’s Spiritual Guide (BookSurge Publishing, an amazon.com company, 2006).” To learn more about this fascinating subject and to sign up for you’re FREE instantly down loadable soulmate reports, visit her website at: http://www.amatterofdestiny.com.
Prescription For Lasting Love
Statistics show that marriages are ending at an alarming rate and that the length of the average marriage is now under seven years. Why are today’s marriages not working? Why are relationships so stressful, difficult and unsatisfying for so many people? I believe it’s due to bad match-ups. If you marry someone with whom you are not well suited, the road to happiness is a very hard one.
So what can you do to turn this unhappiness around? The answer is to pay attention when choosing your life partner. Love and physical attraction are never enough. A strong relationship needs compatibility and commitment from both partners. Compatibly is more than just having the same interests, likes and dislikes; it’s wanting the same things out of life and having the same belief systems. Finding a partner whom you love and with whom you are compatible is the prescription for a healthy, lasting relationship.
It is your responsibility not only to yourself but to your future children to choose your life partner with care. Enduring difficult personal relationships can create much unhappiness and chaos and can be traumatic for everyone involved. The end of a marriage (or a long-term relationship) involves grief, and unfortunately children end up the big losers if the damage is passed along to them.
We want to share our lives with someone with whom we can connect on the deepest level and enjoy a true sense of partnership. We all deserve someone who will treasure, love, protect, admire, support and adore us.
The following 19 steps can help you find your soulmate and achieve relationship success:
1. Be good to yourself. By practicing self-love you become a magnet to your soulmate. If you don’t love yourself first, how is anyone else going to love you?
2. Confidence is beautiful. To be successful in finding true love, you need to be confident. You are more likely to attract the right love if you are fulfilled.
3. Find happiness in yourself. You can’t be completely happy in a relationship until you are happy with yourself and your life. Remember that your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Change starts from the inside out.
4. Nurture your spiritual side. You should be emotionally and spiritually prepared to bring in your soulmate.
5. Know yourself well. Before choosing a lifelong partner, know what your dreams are and what you need to be happy. You are responsible for creating the quality of your life.
6. Stay true to your values. Never compromise your values for anyone. By staying true to your values, you protect yourself from unnecessary pain.
7. Never select a mate out of need. Do not choose a mate out of loneliness, financial insecurity or fear of the future. When you are feeling negative about yourself or your life, you are very likely to make the wrong choice.
8. True love comes to those who wait. Keep in mind that destiny has its own timetable—you must be patient. Always keep your eyes on the prize. If you settle for second best, you will miss out on your perfect match. Be patient. Sometimes is seems that you’ll never find your soulmate. There may be lessons you need to learn before you are ready. The faster you do your inner work and become the person you want to attract, the faster you will connect with your beloved.
9. You deserve to be happy. So what if you are not perfect? No human being is. Always assume that you are worthwhile and accept yourself as you are.
10. Ignorance is not bliss. Get to know someone well before you jump into a relationship. The more information you have, the better you’ll be able to judge whether or not this person will make a good life partner.
11. In order to love well, we must be emotionally mature. Relationships are successful only when both partners are mature enough to see that a good relationship is built on mutual trust and attention to each other’s wants and needs.
12. Build relationship skills that make marriage work. Educate yourself. There are hundreds of great relationship books—pick one up.
13. Prepare yourself for a committed relationship. If you want to find someone special to love and to be loved back in return, you need to prepare for it.
14. To receive healthy love, you have to be healthy. Your relationship isn’t going to go smoothly if you’re not well and at peace with yourself. By being healthy in body, mind and spirit, you will attract a high-quality relationship.
15. Breaking up is hard to do. But if you are not happy, respected and fulfilled in your present relationship, it might be time to end it. Free each other so you can find more compatible mates.
16. Never ignore or justify the warning signs of possible problems. These warning signs are there for you to take notice.
17. Become the person you want to attract. Like attracts like. If you wish to attract a loving, respectful and considerate person, then you have to become a loving, respectful and considerate person.
18. Avoid having sex before commitment. The best way to test a relationship’s potential is to postpone having sex. It becomes harder to be objective about a relationship if you become sexually intimate too soon.
19. Don’t feel bad about not having met you soulmate yet. Get excited instead. You have something wonderful to look forward to.
Connecting with you soulmate is not as difficult as many of us believe. The only thing stopping you from being with your meant-to-be love is you. Make the necessary changes in your life and remember that awareness is the first step to change. Accept that where you are right now is the result of choices you have made in the past, and where you will be in the future depends on the choices you make now.
Your fate is in your hands. Only you can make the choices that support your happiness. Once you become aware of what you are doing and why, you can begin to change your behaviour.
Love and blessings, Joanne B. Parrotta Author of: A Matter of Destiny http://www.amatterofdestiny.com
About The Author Motivational writer Joanne B. Parrotta is the author of “A Matter of Destiny: How to Find and Marry Your Soulmate: A Beginner’s Spiritual Guide (BookSurge Publishing, an amazon.com company, 2006).” To learn more about this fascinating subject and to sign up for you’re FREE instantly down loadable soulmate reports, visit her website at: http://www.amatterofdestiny.com.
So what can you do to turn this unhappiness around? The answer is to pay attention when choosing your life partner. Love and physical attraction are never enough. A strong relationship needs compatibility and commitment from both partners. Compatibly is more than just having the same interests, likes and dislikes; it’s wanting the same things out of life and having the same belief systems. Finding a partner whom you love and with whom you are compatible is the prescription for a healthy, lasting relationship.
It is your responsibility not only to yourself but to your future children to choose your life partner with care. Enduring difficult personal relationships can create much unhappiness and chaos and can be traumatic for everyone involved. The end of a marriage (or a long-term relationship) involves grief, and unfortunately children end up the big losers if the damage is passed along to them.
We want to share our lives with someone with whom we can connect on the deepest level and enjoy a true sense of partnership. We all deserve someone who will treasure, love, protect, admire, support and adore us.
The following 19 steps can help you find your soulmate and achieve relationship success:
1. Be good to yourself. By practicing self-love you become a magnet to your soulmate. If you don’t love yourself first, how is anyone else going to love you?
2. Confidence is beautiful. To be successful in finding true love, you need to be confident. You are more likely to attract the right love if you are fulfilled.
3. Find happiness in yourself. You can’t be completely happy in a relationship until you are happy with yourself and your life. Remember that your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Change starts from the inside out.
4. Nurture your spiritual side. You should be emotionally and spiritually prepared to bring in your soulmate.
5. Know yourself well. Before choosing a lifelong partner, know what your dreams are and what you need to be happy. You are responsible for creating the quality of your life.
6. Stay true to your values. Never compromise your values for anyone. By staying true to your values, you protect yourself from unnecessary pain.
7. Never select a mate out of need. Do not choose a mate out of loneliness, financial insecurity or fear of the future. When you are feeling negative about yourself or your life, you are very likely to make the wrong choice.
8. True love comes to those who wait. Keep in mind that destiny has its own timetable—you must be patient. Always keep your eyes on the prize. If you settle for second best, you will miss out on your perfect match. Be patient. Sometimes is seems that you’ll never find your soulmate. There may be lessons you need to learn before you are ready. The faster you do your inner work and become the person you want to attract, the faster you will connect with your beloved.
9. You deserve to be happy. So what if you are not perfect? No human being is. Always assume that you are worthwhile and accept yourself as you are.
10. Ignorance is not bliss. Get to know someone well before you jump into a relationship. The more information you have, the better you’ll be able to judge whether or not this person will make a good life partner.
11. In order to love well, we must be emotionally mature. Relationships are successful only when both partners are mature enough to see that a good relationship is built on mutual trust and attention to each other’s wants and needs.
12. Build relationship skills that make marriage work. Educate yourself. There are hundreds of great relationship books—pick one up.
13. Prepare yourself for a committed relationship. If you want to find someone special to love and to be loved back in return, you need to prepare for it.
14. To receive healthy love, you have to be healthy. Your relationship isn’t going to go smoothly if you’re not well and at peace with yourself. By being healthy in body, mind and spirit, you will attract a high-quality relationship.
15. Breaking up is hard to do. But if you are not happy, respected and fulfilled in your present relationship, it might be time to end it. Free each other so you can find more compatible mates.
16. Never ignore or justify the warning signs of possible problems. These warning signs are there for you to take notice.
17. Become the person you want to attract. Like attracts like. If you wish to attract a loving, respectful and considerate person, then you have to become a loving, respectful and considerate person.
18. Avoid having sex before commitment. The best way to test a relationship’s potential is to postpone having sex. It becomes harder to be objective about a relationship if you become sexually intimate too soon.
19. Don’t feel bad about not having met you soulmate yet. Get excited instead. You have something wonderful to look forward to.
Connecting with you soulmate is not as difficult as many of us believe. The only thing stopping you from being with your meant-to-be love is you. Make the necessary changes in your life and remember that awareness is the first step to change. Accept that where you are right now is the result of choices you have made in the past, and where you will be in the future depends on the choices you make now.
Your fate is in your hands. Only you can make the choices that support your happiness. Once you become aware of what you are doing and why, you can begin to change your behaviour.
Love and blessings, Joanne B. Parrotta Author of: A Matter of Destiny http://www.amatterofdestiny.com
About The Author Motivational writer Joanne B. Parrotta is the author of “A Matter of Destiny: How to Find and Marry Your Soulmate: A Beginner’s Spiritual Guide (BookSurge Publishing, an amazon.com company, 2006).” To learn more about this fascinating subject and to sign up for you’re FREE instantly down loadable soulmate reports, visit her website at: http://www.amatterofdestiny.com.
Prescription For Lasting Love
Statistics show that marriages are ending at an alarming rate and that the length of the average marriage is now under seven years. Why are today’s marriages not working? Why are relationships so stressful, difficult and unsatisfying for so many people? I believe it’s due to bad match-ups. If you marry someone with whom you are not well suited, the road to happiness is a very hard one.
So what can you do to turn this unhappiness around? The answer is to pay attention when choosing your life partner. Love and physical attraction are never enough. A strong relationship needs compatibility and commitment from both partners. Compatibly is more than just having the same interests, likes and dislikes; it’s wanting the same things out of life and having the same belief systems. Finding a partner whom you love and with whom you are compatible is the prescription for a healthy, lasting relationship.
It is your responsibility not only to yourself but to your future children to choose your life partner with care. Enduring difficult personal relationships can create much unhappiness and chaos and can be traumatic for everyone involved. The end of a marriage (or a long-term relationship) involves grief, and unfortunately children end up the big losers if the damage is passed along to them.
We want to share our lives with someone with whom we can connect on the deepest level and enjoy a true sense of partnership. We all deserve someone who will treasure, love, protect, admire, support and adore us.
The following 19 steps can help you find your soulmate and achieve relationship success:
1. Be good to yourself. By practicing self-love you become a magnet to your soulmate. If you don’t love yourself first, how is anyone else going to love you?
2. Confidence is beautiful. To be successful in finding true love, you need to be confident. You are more likely to attract the right love if you are fulfilled.
3. Find happiness in yourself. You can’t be completely happy in a relationship until you are happy with yourself and your life. Remember that your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Change starts from the inside out.
4. Nurture your spiritual side. You should be emotionally and spiritually prepared to bring in your soulmate.
5. Know yourself well. Before choosing a lifelong partner, know what your dreams are and what you need to be happy. You are responsible for creating the quality of your life.
6. Stay true to your values. Never compromise your values for anyone. By staying true to your values, you protect yourself from unnecessary pain.
7. Never select a mate out of need. Do not choose a mate out of loneliness, financial insecurity or fear of the future. When you are feeling negative about yourself or your life, you are very likely to make the wrong choice.
8. True love comes to those who wait. Keep in mind that destiny has its own timetable—you must be patient. Always keep your eyes on the prize. If you settle for second best, you will miss out on your perfect match. Be patient. Sometimes is seems that you’ll never find your soulmate. There may be lessons you need to learn before you are ready. The faster you do your inner work and become the person you want to attract, the faster you will connect with your beloved.
9. You deserve to be happy. So what if you are not perfect? No human being is. Always assume that you are worthwhile and accept yourself as you are.
10. Ignorance is not bliss. Get to know someone well before you jump into a relationship. The more information you have, the better you’ll be able to judge whether or not this person will make a good life partner.
11. In order to love well, we must be emotionally mature. Relationships are successful only when both partners are mature enough to see that a good relationship is built on mutual trust and attention to each other’s wants and needs.
12. Build relationship skills that make marriage work. Educate yourself. There are hundreds of great relationship books—pick one up.
13. Prepare yourself for a committed relationship. If you want to find someone special to love and to be loved back in return, you need to prepare for it.
14. To receive healthy love, you have to be healthy. Your relationship isn’t going to go smoothly if you’re not well and at peace with yourself. By being healthy in body, mind and spirit, you will attract a high-quality relationship.
15. Breaking up is hard to do. But if you are not happy, respected and fulfilled in your present relationship, it might be time to end it. Free each other so you can find more compatible mates.
16. Never ignore or justify the warning signs of possible problems. These warning signs are there for you to take notice.
17. Become the person you want to attract. Like attracts like. If you wish to attract a loving, respectful and considerate person, then you have to become a loving, respectful and considerate person.
18. Avoid having sex before commitment. The best way to test a relationship’s potential is to postpone having sex. It becomes harder to be objective about a relationship if you become sexually intimate too soon.
19. Don’t feel bad about not having met you soulmate yet. Get excited instead. You have something wonderful to look forward to.
Connecting with you soulmate is not as difficult as many of us believe. The only thing stopping you from being with your meant-to-be love is you. Make the necessary changes in your life and remember that awareness is the first step to change. Accept that where you are right now is the result of choices you have made in the past, and where you will be in the future depends on the choices you make now.
Your fate is in your hands. Only you can make the choices that support your happiness. Once you become aware of what you are doing and why, you can begin to change your behaviour.
Love and blessings, Joanne B. Parrotta Author of: A Matter of Destiny http://www.amatterofdestiny.com
About The Author Motivational writer Joanne B. Parrotta is the author of “A Matter of Destiny: How to Find and Marry Your Soulmate: A Beginner’s Spiritual Guide (BookSurge Publishing, an amazon.com company, 2006).” To learn more about this fascinating subject and to sign up for you’re FREE instantly down loadable soulmate reports, visit her website at: http://www.amatterofdestiny.com.
So what can you do to turn this unhappiness around? The answer is to pay attention when choosing your life partner. Love and physical attraction are never enough. A strong relationship needs compatibility and commitment from both partners. Compatibly is more than just having the same interests, likes and dislikes; it’s wanting the same things out of life and having the same belief systems. Finding a partner whom you love and with whom you are compatible is the prescription for a healthy, lasting relationship.
It is your responsibility not only to yourself but to your future children to choose your life partner with care. Enduring difficult personal relationships can create much unhappiness and chaos and can be traumatic for everyone involved. The end of a marriage (or a long-term relationship) involves grief, and unfortunately children end up the big losers if the damage is passed along to them.
We want to share our lives with someone with whom we can connect on the deepest level and enjoy a true sense of partnership. We all deserve someone who will treasure, love, protect, admire, support and adore us.
The following 19 steps can help you find your soulmate and achieve relationship success:
1. Be good to yourself. By practicing self-love you become a magnet to your soulmate. If you don’t love yourself first, how is anyone else going to love you?
2. Confidence is beautiful. To be successful in finding true love, you need to be confident. You are more likely to attract the right love if you are fulfilled.
3. Find happiness in yourself. You can’t be completely happy in a relationship until you are happy with yourself and your life. Remember that your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Change starts from the inside out.
4. Nurture your spiritual side. You should be emotionally and spiritually prepared to bring in your soulmate.
5. Know yourself well. Before choosing a lifelong partner, know what your dreams are and what you need to be happy. You are responsible for creating the quality of your life.
6. Stay true to your values. Never compromise your values for anyone. By staying true to your values, you protect yourself from unnecessary pain.
7. Never select a mate out of need. Do not choose a mate out of loneliness, financial insecurity or fear of the future. When you are feeling negative about yourself or your life, you are very likely to make the wrong choice.
8. True love comes to those who wait. Keep in mind that destiny has its own timetable—you must be patient. Always keep your eyes on the prize. If you settle for second best, you will miss out on your perfect match. Be patient. Sometimes is seems that you’ll never find your soulmate. There may be lessons you need to learn before you are ready. The faster you do your inner work and become the person you want to attract, the faster you will connect with your beloved.
9. You deserve to be happy. So what if you are not perfect? No human being is. Always assume that you are worthwhile and accept yourself as you are.
10. Ignorance is not bliss. Get to know someone well before you jump into a relationship. The more information you have, the better you’ll be able to judge whether or not this person will make a good life partner.
11. In order to love well, we must be emotionally mature. Relationships are successful only when both partners are mature enough to see that a good relationship is built on mutual trust and attention to each other’s wants and needs.
12. Build relationship skills that make marriage work. Educate yourself. There are hundreds of great relationship books—pick one up.
13. Prepare yourself for a committed relationship. If you want to find someone special to love and to be loved back in return, you need to prepare for it.
14. To receive healthy love, you have to be healthy. Your relationship isn’t going to go smoothly if you’re not well and at peace with yourself. By being healthy in body, mind and spirit, you will attract a high-quality relationship.
15. Breaking up is hard to do. But if you are not happy, respected and fulfilled in your present relationship, it might be time to end it. Free each other so you can find more compatible mates.
16. Never ignore or justify the warning signs of possible problems. These warning signs are there for you to take notice.
17. Become the person you want to attract. Like attracts like. If you wish to attract a loving, respectful and considerate person, then you have to become a loving, respectful and considerate person.
18. Avoid having sex before commitment. The best way to test a relationship’s potential is to postpone having sex. It becomes harder to be objective about a relationship if you become sexually intimate too soon.
19. Don’t feel bad about not having met you soulmate yet. Get excited instead. You have something wonderful to look forward to.
Connecting with you soulmate is not as difficult as many of us believe. The only thing stopping you from being with your meant-to-be love is you. Make the necessary changes in your life and remember that awareness is the first step to change. Accept that where you are right now is the result of choices you have made in the past, and where you will be in the future depends on the choices you make now.
Your fate is in your hands. Only you can make the choices that support your happiness. Once you become aware of what you are doing and why, you can begin to change your behaviour.
Love and blessings, Joanne B. Parrotta Author of: A Matter of Destiny http://www.amatterofdestiny.com
About The Author Motivational writer Joanne B. Parrotta is the author of “A Matter of Destiny: How to Find and Marry Your Soulmate: A Beginner’s Spiritual Guide (BookSurge Publishing, an amazon.com company, 2006).” To learn more about this fascinating subject and to sign up for you’re FREE instantly down loadable soulmate reports, visit her website at: http://www.amatterofdestiny.com.
10 Signs of a Healthy Relationship
“My parents had a very good relationship,” I often hear my clients say.
“What do you mean by good?” I ask.
“They didn’t fight. They spent a lot of time with each other.”
That may have been the definition of a good relationship years ago, but now most people want more. Following are ten signs of a healthy relationship.
KINDNESS
Is kindness more important to each of you than having your way, being in control, or being right? Do you each receive joy out of being kind to each other? Being kind rather than controlling with each other is essential for a healthy relationship.
SPONTANEOUS WARMTH AND AFFECTION
Do you and your partner well up with warmth and fullness of heart for each other and express it with affection? Are you each able to see the beautiful essence within each other, rather than just the faults? Are you able to get beyond the outer to the unique inner Self of each other? Do you enjoy sharing affection? Warmth and affection are vital for a healthy relationship.
LAUGHTER AND FUN
Can the two of you laugh and play together? Do you appreciate and enjoy each other’s sense of humor? In the midst of difficulties, can you help each other to lighten up with humor? Can you let down and be playful with each other, letting yourselves be like kids together? Laughter and fun play a huge role in a healthy relationship.
ENJOYING TIME TOGETHER AND TIME APART
Are you both each other’s favorite person to spend time with? Are you motivated to set aside time just to be together?
Do both of you have friends and interests that you enjoy doing? Are both of you fine when you are not together?
Some couples spend a lot of time together because they really enjoy it, while others spend a lot of time together out of fear of being alone. It is important for a healthy relationship for each person to have friends and interests, so that they are not dependent on each other. Dependency is not healthy in a relationship, particularly emotional dependency.
A METHOD FOR CONFLICT RESOLUTION
All relationships have some conflict. It is not the conflict that is the issue, but how you deal with it. Do you have a method for resolving conflict, or do the issues just keep getting swept aside? If fighting is part of how you deal with conflict, do you fight fair, or are you hurtful when you fight?
LETTING GO OF ANGER
If one or both of you get angry, do you hang on to it, punishing your partner with it, or can you easily let it go? In healthy relationships, both partners are able to quickly move on, back into kindness and affection.
TRUST IN YOUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER
Do you each trust that the love is solid, even in very difficult times between you? Do you each know that you can mess up, fail, disappoint the other, emotionally hurt the other – and the love will still be there? Do you each know that the love is about who you are, not what you do? This level of trust is essential for a healthy relationship.
LISTENING, UNDERSTANDING, ACCEPTING AND LEARNING
Do you each feel heard, understood and accepted? Can you share your secrets with your partner without fearing being judged? Are you each more interested in learning about yourselves and each other than you are in controlling each other? Is listening to each other with an open heart and a desire to understand more important than judging each other or defending yourselves?
SEXUALITY
Is your sexual relationship warm and caring? Can you be sexually spontaneous? Can you talk with each other about what brings pleasure to each of you?
FREEDOM TO BE YOURSELF
Do you each feel free to be all that you are? Do you each feel supported in pursuing what brings you joy? Does your partner feel joy for your joy?
While some people may naturally be open, kind, affectionate, accepting, and emotionally responsible for themselves, most people need to heal the fears and false beliefs they learned in their families. Healthy relationships evolve as each person evolves in his or her ability to be loving to themselves and each other.
About The Author Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? and "Healing Your Aloneness." She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner bonding now! Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.
“What do you mean by good?” I ask.
“They didn’t fight. They spent a lot of time with each other.”
That may have been the definition of a good relationship years ago, but now most people want more. Following are ten signs of a healthy relationship.
KINDNESS
Is kindness more important to each of you than having your way, being in control, or being right? Do you each receive joy out of being kind to each other? Being kind rather than controlling with each other is essential for a healthy relationship.
SPONTANEOUS WARMTH AND AFFECTION
Do you and your partner well up with warmth and fullness of heart for each other and express it with affection? Are you each able to see the beautiful essence within each other, rather than just the faults? Are you able to get beyond the outer to the unique inner Self of each other? Do you enjoy sharing affection? Warmth and affection are vital for a healthy relationship.
LAUGHTER AND FUN
Can the two of you laugh and play together? Do you appreciate and enjoy each other’s sense of humor? In the midst of difficulties, can you help each other to lighten up with humor? Can you let down and be playful with each other, letting yourselves be like kids together? Laughter and fun play a huge role in a healthy relationship.
ENJOYING TIME TOGETHER AND TIME APART
Are you both each other’s favorite person to spend time with? Are you motivated to set aside time just to be together?
Do both of you have friends and interests that you enjoy doing? Are both of you fine when you are not together?
Some couples spend a lot of time together because they really enjoy it, while others spend a lot of time together out of fear of being alone. It is important for a healthy relationship for each person to have friends and interests, so that they are not dependent on each other. Dependency is not healthy in a relationship, particularly emotional dependency.
A METHOD FOR CONFLICT RESOLUTION
All relationships have some conflict. It is not the conflict that is the issue, but how you deal with it. Do you have a method for resolving conflict, or do the issues just keep getting swept aside? If fighting is part of how you deal with conflict, do you fight fair, or are you hurtful when you fight?
LETTING GO OF ANGER
If one or both of you get angry, do you hang on to it, punishing your partner with it, or can you easily let it go? In healthy relationships, both partners are able to quickly move on, back into kindness and affection.
TRUST IN YOUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER
Do you each trust that the love is solid, even in very difficult times between you? Do you each know that you can mess up, fail, disappoint the other, emotionally hurt the other – and the love will still be there? Do you each know that the love is about who you are, not what you do? This level of trust is essential for a healthy relationship.
LISTENING, UNDERSTANDING, ACCEPTING AND LEARNING
Do you each feel heard, understood and accepted? Can you share your secrets with your partner without fearing being judged? Are you each more interested in learning about yourselves and each other than you are in controlling each other? Is listening to each other with an open heart and a desire to understand more important than judging each other or defending yourselves?
SEXUALITY
Is your sexual relationship warm and caring? Can you be sexually spontaneous? Can you talk with each other about what brings pleasure to each of you?
FREEDOM TO BE YOURSELF
Do you each feel free to be all that you are? Do you each feel supported in pursuing what brings you joy? Does your partner feel joy for your joy?
While some people may naturally be open, kind, affectionate, accepting, and emotionally responsible for themselves, most people need to heal the fears and false beliefs they learned in their families. Healthy relationships evolve as each person evolves in his or her ability to be loving to themselves and each other.
About The Author Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? and "Healing Your Aloneness." She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Learn Inner bonding now! Visit her website for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at mailto:margaret@innerbonding.com. Phone sessions available.
How to Talk with Women
Are you fed up of being unable to talk to beautiful women? Imagine being able to have a stress-free and fun conversation with a woman. Now you can learn the art of talking with women confidently and easily. You will learn what to say when you first approach a girl and how to use the power of your voice. The skilled use of your voice, can arouse a deep sexual attraction, that will leave her mesmerized.
While watching the new show called "Fashion House", I could not help but notice the beautiful actress named Michelle Miller(Natalie Martinez). Natalie Martinez plays a sexy dress designer, who is going through a tough divorce. A wealthy young man, who could have any girl he wants, becomes obsessed with Michelle Miller(Natalie Martinez). He meets her, and she does like him, but she quickly notices he is nervous. Natalie Martinez, then says to him, "why are you nervous"? This puts him in a predicament, but he says the right words and ends up getting a date with her.
Here is a quote from the sexy Natalie Martinez, that will give you some insight into this Miami-born Cuban hottie.
"I have to get the whole sense of the guy for me to be turned on by him, for me to actually like him. I like someone that has motivation and is really dedicated to something." -Natalie Martinez
Natalie Martinez has been featured in Maxim and Stuff magazine. Take the time to check her out and your eyes will thank you!
Let's take a quick look at some of the things, that hinder a man from successfully communicating with a beautiful woman:
Boring Her to Death: Not wanting to mess things up, a man will subconsciously restrict the coversation, by talking about weather, work, and sports. He will suffocate her with these questions and the next time, she will avoid him.
Never Shutting Up: Some guys, will choose to talk endlessly to keep the women's attention. This is an obvious sign of social inexperience and nervousness.
Asking Too Many Questions: There is nothing worse than suffering that awkward and embarrassing silence. A man will ask question after question to avoid this painful silence. Bombarding her with so many questions, will leave a bad impression in her mind and will turn her off immediately. Again, this shows that he is nervous and he is not a skilled communicator.
I remember one man who would say things to a woman that scared her to death! While talking with some friends one day, his name was brought up and the women had a negative view of him. It was said he came on too strong and was very aggressive. In speaking with this man, I noticed he became very agitated easily and was a control freak. Women warned each other, which hindered this mans dating life.
The nervousness can be overcome with the right knowledge. Fear is a lack of knowledge and with the right strategy you will be more confident. Learning what to say with the power of persuasion, is very effective. Michelle Miller(Natalie Martinez) was impressed with the young man interested in her. He used the power of persuasion, and even on a date she said she wanted to take things slow. He responded by saying that would be fine. In the back of his mind, he knows that she will be his.
Picture the scene: Your talking to a beautiful sexy woman and she seems to like you. You can tell she's enjoying the conversation and you can feel the sexual chemistry. You know you want to make something happen, but yet you do not want to ruin what you have created. You do not want to scare her off or get rejected. To get the girl you have to give a good "REASON" to meet on a date.
Let's take a look at some powerful reasons and why this can be a lot of fun! When you follow up an offer (such as swapping numbers or going for a coffee) with a good reason for doing it, your making the decision easy for her. Maybe you want to meet at this nice little new place or you just want to talk about something. You make the offer seem ENTICING and a NATURAL thing for the girl to say yes to. BY using words such as "SO" and "BECAUSE" your backing up your suggestion to her. Shall we go over to star bucks, so we can discuss your favorite tunes? Say it with a smile and let it flow naturally.
There are so many different methods you can use to meet women, such as: Pickup in the park using your dog. Seduce the ladies by asking for a hand. Get in touch with your feminine side, so you can get inside hers. Grocery store pickup and seduction. This article does not give me time to go into each topic, but I believe you get the idea. The next question is, now that you’ve got a hottie sitting down with you for a drink, what do you say now?
About The Author DeWayne H. Strickland has been a Film Freak since the time he could walk. He is a crazy movie review critic and researcher. Learn How to Seduce Women, with Almost "Hypnotic Control" and "Accuracy" at: http://www.moviedownloadmatrix.com.
While watching the new show called "Fashion House", I could not help but notice the beautiful actress named Michelle Miller(Natalie Martinez). Natalie Martinez plays a sexy dress designer, who is going through a tough divorce. A wealthy young man, who could have any girl he wants, becomes obsessed with Michelle Miller(Natalie Martinez). He meets her, and she does like him, but she quickly notices he is nervous. Natalie Martinez, then says to him, "why are you nervous"? This puts him in a predicament, but he says the right words and ends up getting a date with her.
Here is a quote from the sexy Natalie Martinez, that will give you some insight into this Miami-born Cuban hottie.
"I have to get the whole sense of the guy for me to be turned on by him, for me to actually like him. I like someone that has motivation and is really dedicated to something." -Natalie Martinez
Natalie Martinez has been featured in Maxim and Stuff magazine. Take the time to check her out and your eyes will thank you!
Let's take a quick look at some of the things, that hinder a man from successfully communicating with a beautiful woman:
Boring Her to Death: Not wanting to mess things up, a man will subconsciously restrict the coversation, by talking about weather, work, and sports. He will suffocate her with these questions and the next time, she will avoid him.
Never Shutting Up: Some guys, will choose to talk endlessly to keep the women's attention. This is an obvious sign of social inexperience and nervousness.
Asking Too Many Questions: There is nothing worse than suffering that awkward and embarrassing silence. A man will ask question after question to avoid this painful silence. Bombarding her with so many questions, will leave a bad impression in her mind and will turn her off immediately. Again, this shows that he is nervous and he is not a skilled communicator.
I remember one man who would say things to a woman that scared her to death! While talking with some friends one day, his name was brought up and the women had a negative view of him. It was said he came on too strong and was very aggressive. In speaking with this man, I noticed he became very agitated easily and was a control freak. Women warned each other, which hindered this mans dating life.
The nervousness can be overcome with the right knowledge. Fear is a lack of knowledge and with the right strategy you will be more confident. Learning what to say with the power of persuasion, is very effective. Michelle Miller(Natalie Martinez) was impressed with the young man interested in her. He used the power of persuasion, and even on a date she said she wanted to take things slow. He responded by saying that would be fine. In the back of his mind, he knows that she will be his.
Picture the scene: Your talking to a beautiful sexy woman and she seems to like you. You can tell she's enjoying the conversation and you can feel the sexual chemistry. You know you want to make something happen, but yet you do not want to ruin what you have created. You do not want to scare her off or get rejected. To get the girl you have to give a good "REASON" to meet on a date.
Let's take a look at some powerful reasons and why this can be a lot of fun! When you follow up an offer (such as swapping numbers or going for a coffee) with a good reason for doing it, your making the decision easy for her. Maybe you want to meet at this nice little new place or you just want to talk about something. You make the offer seem ENTICING and a NATURAL thing for the girl to say yes to. BY using words such as "SO" and "BECAUSE" your backing up your suggestion to her. Shall we go over to star bucks, so we can discuss your favorite tunes? Say it with a smile and let it flow naturally.
There are so many different methods you can use to meet women, such as: Pickup in the park using your dog. Seduce the ladies by asking for a hand. Get in touch with your feminine side, so you can get inside hers. Grocery store pickup and seduction. This article does not give me time to go into each topic, but I believe you get the idea. The next question is, now that you’ve got a hottie sitting down with you for a drink, what do you say now?
About The Author DeWayne H. Strickland has been a Film Freak since the time he could walk. He is a crazy movie review critic and researcher. Learn How to Seduce Women, with Almost "Hypnotic Control" and "Accuracy" at: http://www.moviedownloadmatrix.com.
Internet Dating Advice For A More Rewarding Experience
Avoid costly mistakes that can put you in a worse position than when you started internet dating. This internet dating advice will show you these mistakes, and then you can save yourself from any early setbacks. Any one of these will ruin anything good that you have going or completely turn other singles off of you instantly.
First mistake singles usually make is lying on their profile. When you're dating on the internet you have to be honest. Anyone can make a mistakes on the dating profile but a blatant lie is not something someone can forgive you for. There's already a big thing with trusting people who use internet dating web sites so lying is not going to do you any favors. Honesty is an attractive trait in people.
Not sending any e-mails can affect your internet dating results. Many singles never send e-mails, and the main reason for this is you can't send any until you have payed for your membership. You can reply to other singles e-mails but you need to initiate your own contact. It's no good just setting up your profile just to receive contact from other singles. Other singles like to receive e-mails, this is what starts relationships. You can add that personal touch to an e-mail to show the other singles that you're attracted to them by what you have read in their profile.
Having an empty profile is a sure way not to get contacted. By having an empty profile you're giving the impression you're only there to window shop. You need to have a nice detailed internet dating profile so other singles can see what makes you tick. They want to see what you enjoy about life, and what your goals are. They can get an idea of a future with you this way, and it puts a picture in their mind. Remember to keep all your information positive. Being negative is another big turnoff.
Not visiting the internet dating service will stop singles from contacting you. Most dating web sites will show the last time you have been online. If you only visit the service once a month everyone will see this, and it will show you're not that serious in finding a date. Also the more active you are your profile will get higher in the search results as the internet dating service likes activity as well.
Contacting singles just because you like their photo will only get you disappointment. The most attractive singles on any internet dating service will always get the most messages. These will usually be flirts or smiles from singles on a free trial. These will very rarely get a reply so you'll start assuming that no one wants to reply to your messages. Read someone's profile first before making any contact, and then send them an e-mail. Just because you like the look of someone doesn't mean you will have a lasting relationship with them. It probably wouldn't get past the first date.
Never make any sexual requests or innuendos in any messages to another single. You might think that it's funny but it will only turn the other single off. If you want to do this then there are adult internet dating services that are catered for this behaviour. On an ordinary dating service this will not be tolerated by the singles or the service itself. You don't want to get banned from using the service because of 2 minutes of madness.
If you stay away from the mistakes above your internet dating experience will be a lot more rewarding. And you won’t be single for very much longer.
For more online dating advice, and online dating service reviews visit - http://www.the-online-dating-reviews.com
About The Author Jason King is the web master and dating adviser at http://www.the-online-dating-reviews.com.
First mistake singles usually make is lying on their profile. When you're dating on the internet you have to be honest. Anyone can make a mistakes on the dating profile but a blatant lie is not something someone can forgive you for. There's already a big thing with trusting people who use internet dating web sites so lying is not going to do you any favors. Honesty is an attractive trait in people.
Not sending any e-mails can affect your internet dating results. Many singles never send e-mails, and the main reason for this is you can't send any until you have payed for your membership. You can reply to other singles e-mails but you need to initiate your own contact. It's no good just setting up your profile just to receive contact from other singles. Other singles like to receive e-mails, this is what starts relationships. You can add that personal touch to an e-mail to show the other singles that you're attracted to them by what you have read in their profile.
Having an empty profile is a sure way not to get contacted. By having an empty profile you're giving the impression you're only there to window shop. You need to have a nice detailed internet dating profile so other singles can see what makes you tick. They want to see what you enjoy about life, and what your goals are. They can get an idea of a future with you this way, and it puts a picture in their mind. Remember to keep all your information positive. Being negative is another big turnoff.
Not visiting the internet dating service will stop singles from contacting you. Most dating web sites will show the last time you have been online. If you only visit the service once a month everyone will see this, and it will show you're not that serious in finding a date. Also the more active you are your profile will get higher in the search results as the internet dating service likes activity as well.
Contacting singles just because you like their photo will only get you disappointment. The most attractive singles on any internet dating service will always get the most messages. These will usually be flirts or smiles from singles on a free trial. These will very rarely get a reply so you'll start assuming that no one wants to reply to your messages. Read someone's profile first before making any contact, and then send them an e-mail. Just because you like the look of someone doesn't mean you will have a lasting relationship with them. It probably wouldn't get past the first date.
Never make any sexual requests or innuendos in any messages to another single. You might think that it's funny but it will only turn the other single off. If you want to do this then there are adult internet dating services that are catered for this behaviour. On an ordinary dating service this will not be tolerated by the singles or the service itself. You don't want to get banned from using the service because of 2 minutes of madness.
If you stay away from the mistakes above your internet dating experience will be a lot more rewarding. And you won’t be single for very much longer.
For more online dating advice, and online dating service reviews visit - http://www.the-online-dating-reviews.com
About The Author Jason King is the web master and dating adviser at http://www.the-online-dating-reviews.com.
Online Dating - Meeting A Woman For The First Time
You started online dating to meet a woman. Now it is time to meet your online match for the first time. Meeting her in a comfortable environment is your best strategy for transitioning to a relationship in the real world.
Meet As Friends
When it comes time to meet your online match in person, meet as friends. Don’t go to your first meeting with the idea in your mind that she is The One or might be The One. That puts way too much pressure on your first meeting.
Meet At An Agreed Place
When your match has decided that she is ready to meet you, let her pick the place to meet. This allows her to choose a place where she will feel comfortable. She may ask for some guidance and making a few suggestions is fine. You might also want to give her a few no-go places if you don’t enjoy a particular type of food, but you should try to be flexible. Unless one of you is driving a long distance, I would try to make the meeting fairly short. Meeting for lunch, coffee or dessert all work well since none implies huge expectations.
Dress Casual
I would suggest you discuss with your match dressing casual for your first meeting. I think that helps everyone to keep their expectations in check and promotes a friendly, comfortable environment to explore the possibilities for romance. Your focus should be on one another, not the clothes that you each are wearing.
Have Fun
When you finally meet your match, relax, be yourself and have a good time. You will look your best with a smile on your face.
Send An E-Mail After Your First Meeting
If you had a successful first meeting, before you go to bed, send her a short e-mail saying that you enjoyed meeting her in person. It is a nice way to let her know that you are interested and it is the best way to help move the relationship forward.
Transitioning To A Real World Relationship
Meeting your match for the first time is a big step in transitioning you from an online/phone relationship to one in the real world. It still may be awhile before your match feels comfortable enough to give you her phone number so that you can call or her address so you can pick her up for a date. That will come with time, try to be patient and understanding. Patience might get you somewhere, impatience won’t get you anywhere.
About The Author Timothy Mahar runs the website http://www.RomanceForEveryone.com which includes both online dating tips for men and online dating tips for women.
Meet As Friends
When it comes time to meet your online match in person, meet as friends. Don’t go to your first meeting with the idea in your mind that she is The One or might be The One. That puts way too much pressure on your first meeting.
Meet At An Agreed Place
When your match has decided that she is ready to meet you, let her pick the place to meet. This allows her to choose a place where she will feel comfortable. She may ask for some guidance and making a few suggestions is fine. You might also want to give her a few no-go places if you don’t enjoy a particular type of food, but you should try to be flexible. Unless one of you is driving a long distance, I would try to make the meeting fairly short. Meeting for lunch, coffee or dessert all work well since none implies huge expectations.
Dress Casual
I would suggest you discuss with your match dressing casual for your first meeting. I think that helps everyone to keep their expectations in check and promotes a friendly, comfortable environment to explore the possibilities for romance. Your focus should be on one another, not the clothes that you each are wearing.
Have Fun
When you finally meet your match, relax, be yourself and have a good time. You will look your best with a smile on your face.
Send An E-Mail After Your First Meeting
If you had a successful first meeting, before you go to bed, send her a short e-mail saying that you enjoyed meeting her in person. It is a nice way to let her know that you are interested and it is the best way to help move the relationship forward.
Transitioning To A Real World Relationship
Meeting your match for the first time is a big step in transitioning you from an online/phone relationship to one in the real world. It still may be awhile before your match feels comfortable enough to give you her phone number so that you can call or her address so you can pick her up for a date. That will come with time, try to be patient and understanding. Patience might get you somewhere, impatience won’t get you anywhere.
About The Author Timothy Mahar runs the website http://www.RomanceForEveryone.com which includes both online dating tips for men and online dating tips for women.
Is it Safe For You To Join the Ranks of the Millions of Online Daters?
According to CBC, there are over 40 million visitors to online dating sites in the US and 7 million in Canada. Although these numbers may seem staggering, there are millions of other still who are hesitant to delve into the world of dating online. Why is this? What are the real risks of online dating? How can you keep yourself safe on and offline?
The first, and one of the most important rules is to never reveal any personal information, especially on a public profile where anyone with the internet can access it. Personal information of this nature includes real names, addresses, phone numbers, and any other sensitive information, especially banking or financial information. Contact information, like phone numbers and addresses should only be given to people once a certain level of trust and regular communication has been established. When dating online, protecting sensitive personal information that others can use to get access to money, personal files, and so on, can help protect your finances, and personal safety.
Meeting people from online dating sites face to face is also often perceived as quite risky. While there certainly are risks involved with meeting new people, certain safety precautions can, and should, be taken. For example, always meet in a public place, and keep a cell phone with you at all times. Tell a friend where you're going, and who with. It's also a good idea to designate a check in time, where you'll call a friend to tell them where you are and how things are going, and let them know you're safe.
Many people who stay away from dating online do so because of the perceived risks of meeting strangers over the internet. Though there certainly are risks to online dating, proper safety precautions and awareness of risks and strategies can help minimize these risks and make dating online a safe and enjoyable experience.
About The Author Joe Davidson provides kisscafe with interesting articles about Online dating.
http://www.kisscafe.com
The first, and one of the most important rules is to never reveal any personal information, especially on a public profile where anyone with the internet can access it. Personal information of this nature includes real names, addresses, phone numbers, and any other sensitive information, especially banking or financial information. Contact information, like phone numbers and addresses should only be given to people once a certain level of trust and regular communication has been established. When dating online, protecting sensitive personal information that others can use to get access to money, personal files, and so on, can help protect your finances, and personal safety.
Meeting people from online dating sites face to face is also often perceived as quite risky. While there certainly are risks involved with meeting new people, certain safety precautions can, and should, be taken. For example, always meet in a public place, and keep a cell phone with you at all times. Tell a friend where you're going, and who with. It's also a good idea to designate a check in time, where you'll call a friend to tell them where you are and how things are going, and let them know you're safe.
Many people who stay away from dating online do so because of the perceived risks of meeting strangers over the internet. Though there certainly are risks to online dating, proper safety precautions and awareness of risks and strategies can help minimize these risks and make dating online a safe and enjoyable experience.
About The Author Joe Davidson provides kisscafe with interesting articles about Online dating.
http://www.kisscafe.com
Is it Safe For You To Join the Ranks of the Millions of Online Daters?
According to CBC, there are over 40 million visitors to online dating sites in the US and 7 million in Canada. Although these numbers may seem staggering, there are millions of other still who are hesitant to delve into the world of dating online. Why is this? What are the real risks of online dating? How can you keep yourself safe on and offline?
The first, and one of the most important rules is to never reveal any personal information, especially on a public profile where anyone with the internet can access it. Personal information of this nature includes real names, addresses, phone numbers, and any other sensitive information, especially banking or financial information. Contact information, like phone numbers and addresses should only be given to people once a certain level of trust and regular communication has been established. When dating online, protecting sensitive personal information that others can use to get access to money, personal files, and so on, can help protect your finances, and personal safety.
Meeting people from online dating sites face to face is also often perceived as quite risky. While there certainly are risks involved with meeting new people, certain safety precautions can, and should, be taken. For example, always meet in a public place, and keep a cell phone with you at all times. Tell a friend where you're going, and who with. It's also a good idea to designate a check in time, where you'll call a friend to tell them where you are and how things are going, and let them know you're safe.
Many people who stay away from dating online do so because of the perceived risks of meeting strangers over the internet. Though there certainly are risks to online dating, proper safety precautions and awareness of risks and strategies can help minimize these risks and make dating online a safe and enjoyable experience.
About The Author Joe Davidson provides kisscafe with interesting articles about Online dating.
http://www.kisscafe.com
The first, and one of the most important rules is to never reveal any personal information, especially on a public profile where anyone with the internet can access it. Personal information of this nature includes real names, addresses, phone numbers, and any other sensitive information, especially banking or financial information. Contact information, like phone numbers and addresses should only be given to people once a certain level of trust and regular communication has been established. When dating online, protecting sensitive personal information that others can use to get access to money, personal files, and so on, can help protect your finances, and personal safety.
Meeting people from online dating sites face to face is also often perceived as quite risky. While there certainly are risks involved with meeting new people, certain safety precautions can, and should, be taken. For example, always meet in a public place, and keep a cell phone with you at all times. Tell a friend where you're going, and who with. It's also a good idea to designate a check in time, where you'll call a friend to tell them where you are and how things are going, and let them know you're safe.
Many people who stay away from dating online do so because of the perceived risks of meeting strangers over the internet. Though there certainly are risks to online dating, proper safety precautions and awareness of risks and strategies can help minimize these risks and make dating online a safe and enjoyable experience.
About The Author Joe Davidson provides kisscafe with interesting articles about Online dating.
http://www.kisscafe.com
Cheaters: Men Cheaters and the Women They Cheat With
Men cheat women due to several reasons. Sometimes they do so because they have the opportunity. Cheating is typically done by three types of men: those with low self esteem, those who are unhappy at home and those who are afraid of commitment and are seeking 'fun love'. According to the statistics on cheating spouses, 50 to 70% of married men (between 38 and 53 million men) have cheated or will cheat on their wives. One recent study found that 2/3 of the wives (26 to 36 million women) whose husbands were cheating had no idea their husbands were having an affair - largely because they failed to recognize their cheating signs.
Married men, particularly those in long term relationships, cheat mainly because they believe that having a short-term affair will resolve any problems temporarily they have at home and prevent them from 'hurting' anyone long term. The actual fact that their partner is already being hurt by their lack of attention and affection - and being prevented from finding love too - does not comes into the picture. There are three problems to this approach. First, it stops the major conflicts in the relationship being explored, acknowledged, and addressed. Second, it makes the situation worse because any contact only proves starkly what is already missing at home, especially sexually. Thirdly, it deliberately ignores the fact that the man is taking his affections elsewhere which begs the question: How does giving one's self to someone else shows love and affection for the person left at home and, accord her due respect for her love and support?
Men who cheat women by keeping relationships stray through a conflict of perception. What their women perceive that men want from them may not be necessarily what those men actually desire, and women seldom seek to find out because they are afraid of the answers! So after the honeymoon period is over, when their desires have not been fulfilled, spouses soon seek it elsewhere. In the meantime the women who are affected turn on the men and blame them for their 'bad' behavior instead of looking into themselves to see where they have missed a connection and, at worse, getting out of their demoralizing situation. It is always easier to verify others because it stops us looking at ourselves, but women aren't tied to philandering men. One very lucid example of a man cheating would be if a man were to regularly take one particular coworker out to lunch or dinner meetings. In most of the cases, it would be safe to assume that she offers him more than just a discussion about work. She is also probably providing him with emotional companionship, giving him an opportunity to share his thoughts and feelings.
Men who are cheating emotionally often begin to question whether or not they should be seeing that one particular woman as much as they are now. They know deep down inside really well that she means more to them than just a regular female friend would and thus feel a degree of guilt for seeing her.One in five married women has had a fling in the past, the highest numbers ever recorded, according to one group of researchers. In fact, the numbers of cheating wives has now equalled the statistics on cheating husbands. For more information check out this link.Society has given women the permission to be sexually active, and it is perfectly clear why women do it, it is for the same reasons men do. They are not getting what they want out of their marriage.The workplace, working out, the Internet, women now have more sexual opportunities than ever before. With better salaries and no children, the stakes seem to be low even if they are caught.
Celebrity Example
When we talk about cheating women, the famous personality, which comes into picture, is Mr Hugh Grant, who is a popular star of Hollywood during the 90's. His popularity also stood with a series of accusation he has been involved with. While dating with Hurley, he was arrested in Hollywood for indecent conduct with a prostitute, Divine Brown, in a public place. But sooner he has given an apology for this on the Tonight Show with Jay Leon. Then afterwards, again he began dating a socialite and Unicef ambassador Jemima Khan, ex-wife of Imran Khan.
About The Author Stephany Alexander is the founder of http://www.WomanSavers.com the World's Largest Database Rating Men. She has been quoted on CNN, Fox Nationwide, the New York Times, and more. She has created over 10 women's comedy cartoon ecards, 6 women's online games. She has been guest on hundreds of radio shows. For more information or to interview, please email womansavers@womansavers.com
Married men, particularly those in long term relationships, cheat mainly because they believe that having a short-term affair will resolve any problems temporarily they have at home and prevent them from 'hurting' anyone long term. The actual fact that their partner is already being hurt by their lack of attention and affection - and being prevented from finding love too - does not comes into the picture. There are three problems to this approach. First, it stops the major conflicts in the relationship being explored, acknowledged, and addressed. Second, it makes the situation worse because any contact only proves starkly what is already missing at home, especially sexually. Thirdly, it deliberately ignores the fact that the man is taking his affections elsewhere which begs the question: How does giving one's self to someone else shows love and affection for the person left at home and, accord her due respect for her love and support?
Men who cheat women by keeping relationships stray through a conflict of perception. What their women perceive that men want from them may not be necessarily what those men actually desire, and women seldom seek to find out because they are afraid of the answers! So after the honeymoon period is over, when their desires have not been fulfilled, spouses soon seek it elsewhere. In the meantime the women who are affected turn on the men and blame them for their 'bad' behavior instead of looking into themselves to see where they have missed a connection and, at worse, getting out of their demoralizing situation. It is always easier to verify others because it stops us looking at ourselves, but women aren't tied to philandering men. One very lucid example of a man cheating would be if a man were to regularly take one particular coworker out to lunch or dinner meetings. In most of the cases, it would be safe to assume that she offers him more than just a discussion about work. She is also probably providing him with emotional companionship, giving him an opportunity to share his thoughts and feelings.
Men who are cheating emotionally often begin to question whether or not they should be seeing that one particular woman as much as they are now. They know deep down inside really well that she means more to them than just a regular female friend would and thus feel a degree of guilt for seeing her.One in five married women has had a fling in the past, the highest numbers ever recorded, according to one group of researchers. In fact, the numbers of cheating wives has now equalled the statistics on cheating husbands. For more information check out this link.Society has given women the permission to be sexually active, and it is perfectly clear why women do it, it is for the same reasons men do. They are not getting what they want out of their marriage.The workplace, working out, the Internet, women now have more sexual opportunities than ever before. With better salaries and no children, the stakes seem to be low even if they are caught.
Celebrity Example
When we talk about cheating women, the famous personality, which comes into picture, is Mr Hugh Grant, who is a popular star of Hollywood during the 90's. His popularity also stood with a series of accusation he has been involved with. While dating with Hurley, he was arrested in Hollywood for indecent conduct with a prostitute, Divine Brown, in a public place. But sooner he has given an apology for this on the Tonight Show with Jay Leon. Then afterwards, again he began dating a socialite and Unicef ambassador Jemima Khan, ex-wife of Imran Khan.
About The Author Stephany Alexander is the founder of http://www.WomanSavers.com the World's Largest Database Rating Men. She has been quoted on CNN, Fox Nationwide, the New York Times, and more. She has created over 10 women's comedy cartoon ecards, 6 women's online games. She has been guest on hundreds of radio shows. For more information or to interview, please email womansavers@womansavers.com
How To Stop Yourself From Internet Infidelity
The internet has brought so many positive changes to the world. Unfortunately it has brought about many bad things as well. One of those is internet infidelity or also know as online infidelity.
Online infidelity is where you cheat on your wife or husband by looking at porn on the Internet. It could also be a girlfriend chetaing on a boyfriend or vice versa. The Internet is a powerful presence and makes it possible to cheat at almost any place, and any time.
So what can you do to help yourself stay out of the position to do Internet infidelity. Lets take a look and answer that question right now.
1. When you go on your net, be sure and have a reason for going on the Internet. Being lonely or bored is not a good reason to be on the Internet, because it can only get you in trouble. If you have an argument with your significant other then that is not the time to go online.
2. Be honest with yourself. If the Internet is causing you problems with infidelity then you need to address that by admitting that you do have a problem. Only then will you be able to start taking the steps to stop your Internet infidelity.
3. Changer your email address if you are getting contacted by a previous online infidelity. Unsubscribe yourself if you are registered in any chat rooms. And if you use Instant Messenger remove that from your computer.
The same goes for text messaging on your cell phone. And if you use your cell phone for Internet access in any way, be careful not to fall in the trap of Internet fidelity there either.
4. If you use a laptop computer with wireless internet then only go online when you have your computer out in an open space. If you have a destop pc move it out in the open somewhere where you can be seen at all times.
5. Another thing you can do is install computer monitoring or filtering software, which will help prevent you from doing things that you cannot prevent yourself from doing.
6. An obvious things that you can do is spend more time with your spouse, friends, or family. Do more things to get outside such as go to a movie, go shopping, take a walk or ride a bike, attend a sporting event, and so on. These are all things that will help you get up and get away your computer.
This is six things that you can do to stop your online infidelity. The good news for you is these really will work if you try them.
About The Author Ed Opperman invites you to visit his internet infidelity website for all of your trace email address needs. He offers online dating searches, reverse email searches, telephone investigations, and more. To learn how you can catch them cheating online please visit here now: ---> http://www.emailrevealer.com
Online infidelity is where you cheat on your wife or husband by looking at porn on the Internet. It could also be a girlfriend chetaing on a boyfriend or vice versa. The Internet is a powerful presence and makes it possible to cheat at almost any place, and any time.
So what can you do to help yourself stay out of the position to do Internet infidelity. Lets take a look and answer that question right now.
1. When you go on your net, be sure and have a reason for going on the Internet. Being lonely or bored is not a good reason to be on the Internet, because it can only get you in trouble. If you have an argument with your significant other then that is not the time to go online.
2. Be honest with yourself. If the Internet is causing you problems with infidelity then you need to address that by admitting that you do have a problem. Only then will you be able to start taking the steps to stop your Internet infidelity.
3. Changer your email address if you are getting contacted by a previous online infidelity. Unsubscribe yourself if you are registered in any chat rooms. And if you use Instant Messenger remove that from your computer.
The same goes for text messaging on your cell phone. And if you use your cell phone for Internet access in any way, be careful not to fall in the trap of Internet fidelity there either.
4. If you use a laptop computer with wireless internet then only go online when you have your computer out in an open space. If you have a destop pc move it out in the open somewhere where you can be seen at all times.
5. Another thing you can do is install computer monitoring or filtering software, which will help prevent you from doing things that you cannot prevent yourself from doing.
6. An obvious things that you can do is spend more time with your spouse, friends, or family. Do more things to get outside such as go to a movie, go shopping, take a walk or ride a bike, attend a sporting event, and so on. These are all things that will help you get up and get away your computer.
This is six things that you can do to stop your online infidelity. The good news for you is these really will work if you try them.
About The Author Ed Opperman invites you to visit his internet infidelity website for all of your trace email address needs. He offers online dating searches, reverse email searches, telephone investigations, and more. To learn how you can catch them cheating online please visit here now: ---> http://www.emailrevealer.com
Friday, July 25, 2008
Do You Know The Pros And Cons Of Adult Dating Online?
Adult dating online services is another specialized niche in online dating. The adult dating online internet personals service enables you to register, to easily contact any member you wish via internal messaging service. It is completely anonymous and secure Adult dating online services also features erotic personals section, where one can view sexy photos of female members. Adult dating services online usually offers a number of features similar to that of online dating sites. Many adult dating online services offers full searching capabilities and a very large number of subscribers making it easy to find suitable partners. Adult dating online services online allows all members to add a profile to the site, search profiles, and a host of other features. You can chat, send instant messages, and browse through the huge worldwide database of profiles for free. Guests may also enter the site and browse the listings, but in order to post a listing and use the many features available on the site, you must become a free member.
The benefits of adult dating online involve:
• The ability for less sexually experienced or shy personalities to express their sexual selves.
• It is a safe secure environment to practice safe, virtual sex.
• The ability to feel comfortable with the cybersex partner due to the anonymous nature of the Internet and adult dating online chatrooms.
Just as adult dating online has its set of advantages, there can be drawbacks in indulging in it too. The dangers of adult dating services online particularly when tackling cybersex involve:
• The dangers of adult dating online are in not knowing the person you are dealing with and their intimate involvement. The Internet cannot screen the age or sex of the people involved and this could cause ethical concerns.
• People can take adult dating online services online too personal and seriously. Reports have been noted on cybersex addiction.
• Internet adult dating could potentially ruin your physical sex life due to the lack of anonymity in the physical space.
• Not healthy to experience only Internet or adult dating online relationships as this will deter you into entering real physical relationships.
Therefore when you are ready to use this medium, weigh the pros and cons and be aware of the rules of adult dating online so that you have an enjoyable experience altogether
About The Author Joe Davidson provides kisscafe with interesting articles about adult dating online.
http://www.kisscafe.com
The benefits of adult dating online involve:
• The ability for less sexually experienced or shy personalities to express their sexual selves.
• It is a safe secure environment to practice safe, virtual sex.
• The ability to feel comfortable with the cybersex partner due to the anonymous nature of the Internet and adult dating online chatrooms.
Just as adult dating online has its set of advantages, there can be drawbacks in indulging in it too. The dangers of adult dating services online particularly when tackling cybersex involve:
• The dangers of adult dating online are in not knowing the person you are dealing with and their intimate involvement. The Internet cannot screen the age or sex of the people involved and this could cause ethical concerns.
• People can take adult dating online services online too personal and seriously. Reports have been noted on cybersex addiction.
• Internet adult dating could potentially ruin your physical sex life due to the lack of anonymity in the physical space.
• Not healthy to experience only Internet or adult dating online relationships as this will deter you into entering real physical relationships.
Therefore when you are ready to use this medium, weigh the pros and cons and be aware of the rules of adult dating online so that you have an enjoyable experience altogether
About The Author Joe Davidson provides kisscafe with interesting articles about adult dating online.
http://www.kisscafe.com
How To Avoid People Who Lie On Online Dating Sites
The internet is a big place and popular with all ages and types of people. While most people mean you no harm, there is the odd creep who will lie to you to get what they want.
For instance there is the older man or woman who lies about their age. I don’t mean they lie about being a few years younger, but men who are in their 50s but their dating profile states they are 22 years old. An easy way to find out if these people are lying is to ask for a very recent photo of the person holding up the date, to prove it’s actually there photo and not a stolen image taken from some where online.
Then there is the second type of fraud, the creepy guy who contacts you through dating services and then he will start asking for nude photos or explicit photographs of you. These type of guys are usually looking to collect sexual images of random women through dating sites.
Another type of weirdo is the person who joins a dating service just to waste time when they are bored at work for their own entertainment at your expense. Not only do office workers engage in this, but then you also get underage teenagers who get a kick out of lying to men or women and they try to see how far they can take it. They use stolen pictures of models with fake profiles, then they contact you and lead you on for fun.
Some other people who have the internet access and lots of time on their hands are prison inmates. Surprisingly they have internet access in jail and inmates amuse themselves by trying to chat with you. You can nip all of the game players in the bud by asking for their phone number. 99% will get discouraged and leave you alone.
When you get someone’s phone number you can do a reverse lookup, using a reverse phone directory and you can find out the name and address of the person associated with that number. This is an easy way to detect if they are lying about where they live or their name.
If you get the persons name you can do a Google search to see if their name is listed, sometimes names do come up. You can learn a lot about a person by doing a Google search on them.
Another quick way to get rid of all these problems is not to signup to free dating sites. Since free dating web sites don’t require a credit card, game players can easily get away with lying about age, gender or anything they feel like deceiving you about. You will get rid of underage teenagers, prison inmates and many other liars fast this way.
Hopefully I haven’t scared you off from using online dating sites, the amount of people who start relationships by meeting through the web is staggering. It’s a great way to meet people but just be careful. Don’t let a few bad apples ruin the fun, happy dating!
About The Author Richard Gazzo is a writer offering tips on married dating, married personals and other info for people who are married but looking.
http://www.marriedaffair.net
For instance there is the older man or woman who lies about their age. I don’t mean they lie about being a few years younger, but men who are in their 50s but their dating profile states they are 22 years old. An easy way to find out if these people are lying is to ask for a very recent photo of the person holding up the date, to prove it’s actually there photo and not a stolen image taken from some where online.
Then there is the second type of fraud, the creepy guy who contacts you through dating services and then he will start asking for nude photos or explicit photographs of you. These type of guys are usually looking to collect sexual images of random women through dating sites.
Another type of weirdo is the person who joins a dating service just to waste time when they are bored at work for their own entertainment at your expense. Not only do office workers engage in this, but then you also get underage teenagers who get a kick out of lying to men or women and they try to see how far they can take it. They use stolen pictures of models with fake profiles, then they contact you and lead you on for fun.
Some other people who have the internet access and lots of time on their hands are prison inmates. Surprisingly they have internet access in jail and inmates amuse themselves by trying to chat with you. You can nip all of the game players in the bud by asking for their phone number. 99% will get discouraged and leave you alone.
When you get someone’s phone number you can do a reverse lookup, using a reverse phone directory and you can find out the name and address of the person associated with that number. This is an easy way to detect if they are lying about where they live or their name.
If you get the persons name you can do a Google search to see if their name is listed, sometimes names do come up. You can learn a lot about a person by doing a Google search on them.
Another quick way to get rid of all these problems is not to signup to free dating sites. Since free dating web sites don’t require a credit card, game players can easily get away with lying about age, gender or anything they feel like deceiving you about. You will get rid of underage teenagers, prison inmates and many other liars fast this way.
Hopefully I haven’t scared you off from using online dating sites, the amount of people who start relationships by meeting through the web is staggering. It’s a great way to meet people but just be careful. Don’t let a few bad apples ruin the fun, happy dating!
About The Author Richard Gazzo is a writer offering tips on married dating, married personals and other info for people who are married but looking.
http://www.marriedaffair.net
Everyone Online Isn’t Trustworthy
You may think that’s common knowledge, but many people are still very trusting of everyone they meet online. Which is a huge mistake!
We must always remember that we are dealing with strangers. For that reason alone, never start an online relationship full of trust. Online even more so than offline, make your trust something that must be earned.
Almost everyone can hide their issues and flaws for quite awhile online. You have no way of knowing if this person is worthy of your trust or not.
As you are reviewing the profiles and “shopping” around, keep that statement in your head; everyone online isn’t trustworthy.
Just think about it...”trustworthy”, meaning “worthy of your trust”. What has this stranger done, to be worthy of your trust? Absolutely nothing!
You’re going to meet lots of people online that want you to trust them immediately. Why? Just....just “because”. They will even try and lay a guilt trip on you. They will preach you a message about “how are you ever going to get to know someone if you aren’t willing to trust them?”
They actually have their “sermon” backwards! When meeting someone online, you both work to “earn” each others trust. When that happens, you realize they are indeed trustworthy. If it doesn’t happen...you just smile to yourself and say...”I knew it! I was right from the very beginning!” What I’m telling you will begin to replay in your head...”everyone online isn’t trustworthy”!
Be glad you found that out early...before you gave them access to your life, your emotions, and more importantly...your heart!
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About The Author Hi, I’m Vivian Johnson. I have been involved with internet dating since it’s inception. I think it is great! It is the only place in the world where you can find millions of eligible singles...all in one place! There are only a couple of things you need to know...
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We must always remember that we are dealing with strangers. For that reason alone, never start an online relationship full of trust. Online even more so than offline, make your trust something that must be earned.
Almost everyone can hide their issues and flaws for quite awhile online. You have no way of knowing if this person is worthy of your trust or not.
As you are reviewing the profiles and “shopping” around, keep that statement in your head; everyone online isn’t trustworthy.
Just think about it...”trustworthy”, meaning “worthy of your trust”. What has this stranger done, to be worthy of your trust? Absolutely nothing!
You’re going to meet lots of people online that want you to trust them immediately. Why? Just....just “because”. They will even try and lay a guilt trip on you. They will preach you a message about “how are you ever going to get to know someone if you aren’t willing to trust them?”
They actually have their “sermon” backwards! When meeting someone online, you both work to “earn” each others trust. When that happens, you realize they are indeed trustworthy. If it doesn’t happen...you just smile to yourself and say...”I knew it! I was right from the very beginning!” What I’m telling you will begin to replay in your head...”everyone online isn’t trustworthy”!
Be glad you found that out early...before you gave them access to your life, your emotions, and more importantly...your heart!
Put yourself in position to “choose”...not always waiting to be “chosen”!
Do you believe you deserve the person of your dreams? If so, get the skills you need to bring your dreams into reality Today!
Free For A Limited Time – ($27.00 value!)
Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
About The Author Hi, I’m Vivian Johnson. I have been involved with internet dating since it’s inception. I think it is great! It is the only place in the world where you can find millions of eligible singles...all in one place! There are only a couple of things you need to know...
Let’s start here: Free For A Limited Time Only! ($27.00 value) Get your Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
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Don’t Be An Online Fool
Nothing is worse than feeling like a fool, online or off. No one can make a fool out of you, unless you let them.
You can interact online without telling “everyone” “everything”. By giving too much information in the beginning is a bad idea for two reasons.
1. You shouldn’t give total strangers personal information. We tell our children “don’t talk to strangers!” Yet, we tell strangers how much money we make, where we work, what kind of car we drive, if we are rent or own. That is way too much information!
2. Once you “layout” everything there is about you, your potential love interest will lose interest. Why hang around...? You’re no longer very interesting...
Don’t be an online fool, by trying to be too helpful and accommodating. If someone needs to make a trip, don’t volunteer your friend’s name that can get them a stand-by airline ticket “real cheap!” If this “stranger” is looking for a job, don’t refer them to placement agencies that you’ve worked for. You have no idea who you are recommending. Don’t give strangers a free ride on your reputation. That is being a total fool! If someone online needs a place to stay, don’t offer to write a letter of reference, because at one time you were a leasing agent and your name still carries a lot of weight!
Please do not volunteer for anything! You will be taken advantage of 70% of the time and you will have no one to blame but you. Not because you’re such a nice person...but because you are a fool! It’s as simple as that.
Remember: when it comes to online dating sites, please take responsibility for protecting yourself. Don’t acquire the reputation for being an online fool. You really don’t have to bend over backwards to make quality, potential “love interests” online.
Put yourself in position to “choose”...not always waiting to be “chosen”!
Do you believe you deserve the person of your dreams? If so, get the skills you need to bring your dreams into reality Today!
Free For A Limited Time – ($27.00 value!)
Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
About The Author Hi, I’m Vivian Johnson. I have been involved with internet dating since it’s inception. I think it is great! It is the only place in the world where you can find millions of eligible singles...all in one place! There are only a couple of things you need to know...
Let’s start here: Free For A Limited Time Only! ($27.00 value) Get your Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
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You can interact online without telling “everyone” “everything”. By giving too much information in the beginning is a bad idea for two reasons.
1. You shouldn’t give total strangers personal information. We tell our children “don’t talk to strangers!” Yet, we tell strangers how much money we make, where we work, what kind of car we drive, if we are rent or own. That is way too much information!
2. Once you “layout” everything there is about you, your potential love interest will lose interest. Why hang around...? You’re no longer very interesting...
Don’t be an online fool, by trying to be too helpful and accommodating. If someone needs to make a trip, don’t volunteer your friend’s name that can get them a stand-by airline ticket “real cheap!” If this “stranger” is looking for a job, don’t refer them to placement agencies that you’ve worked for. You have no idea who you are recommending. Don’t give strangers a free ride on your reputation. That is being a total fool! If someone online needs a place to stay, don’t offer to write a letter of reference, because at one time you were a leasing agent and your name still carries a lot of weight!
Please do not volunteer for anything! You will be taken advantage of 70% of the time and you will have no one to blame but you. Not because you’re such a nice person...but because you are a fool! It’s as simple as that.
Remember: when it comes to online dating sites, please take responsibility for protecting yourself. Don’t acquire the reputation for being an online fool. You really don’t have to bend over backwards to make quality, potential “love interests” online.
Put yourself in position to “choose”...not always waiting to be “chosen”!
Do you believe you deserve the person of your dreams? If so, get the skills you need to bring your dreams into reality Today!
Free For A Limited Time – ($27.00 value!)
Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
About The Author Hi, I’m Vivian Johnson. I have been involved with internet dating since it’s inception. I think it is great! It is the only place in the world where you can find millions of eligible singles...all in one place! There are only a couple of things you need to know...
Let’s start here: Free For A Limited Time Only! ($27.00 value) Get your Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
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Can You Spot An Emotional Rapist?
Online, there are people I can only label as “emotional rapists”. They worm their way into your heart, via your emotions then drain you dry. But, in order to save yourself you must be able to spot them!
The two of you seem to make a connection. You begin to communicate with each other, almost exclusively. Even though it’s only been a couple of weeks it seems like you’ve known each other forever.
By this point, you have made the mistake of sharing your emotional past, present and your hopes for the future with this total stranger.
That is how the “connection” was made so quickly. In order to spot an emotional rapist you have to know your “soft spots” and protect them with your life.
The emotional rapists asks lots of questions regarding your “thoughts”, “ideas”, “feelings”, etc. By asking these heartfelt questions, you begin to feel like they are your “soul mate”. They don’t possess any special skills. You handed your most private thoughts, ideas and feelings to this stranger, on a silver platter!
Once they have this key to who you are, they begin to manipulate you. Because of the information you’ve shared with them, they now know your weaknesses and your strengths.
They now have the ability to push all of the right buttons, they know your soft spots, your sore spots, what makes you cry, and what can literally bring you to your knees.
Most people would say, “just stop communicating with them! Just leave them alone!” But you can’t...why? Because they have so much of you...
My advice? When it is apparent that they only wanted this information in order to have an “edge”...a “tool”...? End all communications immediately! So what if they have a part of you. Without you, what they have is useless.
As soon as you spot an emotional rapist, run...run...run! Then go find someone that is worthy of you and all of you...inside and out! They are out there...trust me. Good luck...and have a blast!
Put yourself in position to “choose”...not always waiting to be “chosen”!
Do you believe you deserve the person of your dreams? If so, get the skills you need to bring your dreams into reality Today!
Free For A Limited Time – ($27.00 value!)
Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
About The Author Hi, I’m Vivian Johnson. I have been involved with internet dating since it’s inception. I think it is great! It is the only place in the world where you can find millions of eligible singles...all in one place! There are only a couple of things you need to know...
Let’s start here: Free For A Limited Time Only! ($27.00 value) Get your Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
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The two of you seem to make a connection. You begin to communicate with each other, almost exclusively. Even though it’s only been a couple of weeks it seems like you’ve known each other forever.
By this point, you have made the mistake of sharing your emotional past, present and your hopes for the future with this total stranger.
That is how the “connection” was made so quickly. In order to spot an emotional rapist you have to know your “soft spots” and protect them with your life.
The emotional rapists asks lots of questions regarding your “thoughts”, “ideas”, “feelings”, etc. By asking these heartfelt questions, you begin to feel like they are your “soul mate”. They don’t possess any special skills. You handed your most private thoughts, ideas and feelings to this stranger, on a silver platter!
Once they have this key to who you are, they begin to manipulate you. Because of the information you’ve shared with them, they now know your weaknesses and your strengths.
They now have the ability to push all of the right buttons, they know your soft spots, your sore spots, what makes you cry, and what can literally bring you to your knees.
Most people would say, “just stop communicating with them! Just leave them alone!” But you can’t...why? Because they have so much of you...
My advice? When it is apparent that they only wanted this information in order to have an “edge”...a “tool”...? End all communications immediately! So what if they have a part of you. Without you, what they have is useless.
As soon as you spot an emotional rapist, run...run...run! Then go find someone that is worthy of you and all of you...inside and out! They are out there...trust me. Good luck...and have a blast!
Put yourself in position to “choose”...not always waiting to be “chosen”!
Do you believe you deserve the person of your dreams? If so, get the skills you need to bring your dreams into reality Today!
Free For A Limited Time – ($27.00 value!)
Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
About The Author Hi, I’m Vivian Johnson. I have been involved with internet dating since it’s inception. I think it is great! It is the only place in the world where you can find millions of eligible singles...all in one place! There are only a couple of things you need to know...
Let’s start here: Free For A Limited Time Only! ($27.00 value) Get your Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
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3 Online Dating Traps
There are online dating traps everywhere! Here are the main 3:
1. The first online dating trap is paying for a membership before using their pretrial.
The deal is this; they want to have your credit card information “on file” at the time you set up the free trial.
Then, after using the free trial you decide this is not the site for you. You try to reach someone by phone to cancel at the end of the 14 day free trial. You are unable to reach anyone for days.
Out of curiosity, you check your online bank account and find out you have been charged for a three month membership!
Finally, you reach someone there...they direct your attention to the “fine print” which clearly states that the free trial cancellation must be received by “mail” within the 14 day period. Good luck fighting this online dating trap...
2. The next one is; you browse the site’s available members. You are sure there is a great selection of eligible singles. So, you gladly sign up...
You soon discover, that over 50 percent of the members haven’t signed on in over 90 days!
Which means; during the free trial you didn’t have access to all of their search options! This is one of the most aggravating online dating traps of them all...
The third online dating trap is the sites with really poor servers. 30 percent of the time when you try to log in, the site is down for maintenance. Or you may just get the “server is temporarily down” message. How can you “test drive” a site without access to it?
Always, go for the dating sites that have free trial offers. Make sure the free trial gives you an adequate number of search options.
Good luck...
Put yourself in position to “choose”...not always waiting to be “chosen”!
Do you believe you deserve the person of your dreams? If so, get the skills you need to bring your dreams into reality Today!
Free For A Limited Time – ($27.00 value!)
Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
About The Author Hi, I’m Vivian Johnson. I have been involved with internet dating since it’s inception. I think it is great! It is the only place in the world where you can find millions of eligible singles...all in one place! There are only a couple of things you need to know...
Let’s start here: Free For A Limited Time Only! ($27.00 value) Get your Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
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1. The first online dating trap is paying for a membership before using their pretrial.
The deal is this; they want to have your credit card information “on file” at the time you set up the free trial.
Then, after using the free trial you decide this is not the site for you. You try to reach someone by phone to cancel at the end of the 14 day free trial. You are unable to reach anyone for days.
Out of curiosity, you check your online bank account and find out you have been charged for a three month membership!
Finally, you reach someone there...they direct your attention to the “fine print” which clearly states that the free trial cancellation must be received by “mail” within the 14 day period. Good luck fighting this online dating trap...
2. The next one is; you browse the site’s available members. You are sure there is a great selection of eligible singles. So, you gladly sign up...
You soon discover, that over 50 percent of the members haven’t signed on in over 90 days!
Which means; during the free trial you didn’t have access to all of their search options! This is one of the most aggravating online dating traps of them all...
The third online dating trap is the sites with really poor servers. 30 percent of the time when you try to log in, the site is down for maintenance. Or you may just get the “server is temporarily down” message. How can you “test drive” a site without access to it?
Always, go for the dating sites that have free trial offers. Make sure the free trial gives you an adequate number of search options.
Good luck...
Put yourself in position to “choose”...not always waiting to be “chosen”!
Do you believe you deserve the person of your dreams? If so, get the skills you need to bring your dreams into reality Today!
Free For A Limited Time – ($27.00 value!)
Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
About The Author Hi, I’m Vivian Johnson. I have been involved with internet dating since it’s inception. I think it is great! It is the only place in the world where you can find millions of eligible singles...all in one place! There are only a couple of things you need to know...
Let’s start here: Free For A Limited Time Only! ($27.00 value) Get your Free Internet Dating Course http://www.realinternetdating411.com/FreeDatingCourse.html
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Making Online Dating Safe
Only you can make online dating safe. Please be responsible for your safety.
You are online meeting “strangers”. Not friends.
Keep your personal information to yourself. There is no need to tell a stranger: How much money you make. Whether you rent or own. The trust fund that you will have access to next month. You divorced your husband because you caught him in bed three times, with 3 people. (And please don’t tell them, you took him back twice...because he said he wouldn’t do it again!)
Giving this information to an online stranger is the same as putting this information on the front page of worldwide newspapers!
Do you have any idea what can be done with this information? If not, online dating is not for you...you are way too naïve!
Remember at all time, you are responsible for making your online dating experience safe.
Please be concerned, if someone insists on wanting the following information:
Where do you work, and what are your hours? Who do you live with? Aren’t you afraid being alone at night? Do you still have a good relationship with your children’s father? Do you consider your neighbors to be your friends? How often do you have your children?
When you are dealing with online dating scammers and con artists, the answer to each of these questions gives them a valuable “clue” to who you are. From these clues, they are able to develop “keys”...to be used by them...
Do not set yourself up to be scammed. There is a way to avoid this, if you know how.
Once you know exactly how to deal with an online con artist, they will disappear! That is the first clue that you busted them, and beat them at their own game!
I’m not making these questions up...I have been asked these exact same questions...
Be leery of anyone that constantly pries into personal areas.
About The Author Vivian Johnson
I have been involved in online dating since it's inception!
Yes...I have received a diamond wedding set via FedEx, from a very eligible bachelor.
Wouldn't you like to be one of the most desirable singles on any dating site?
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You are online meeting “strangers”. Not friends.
Keep your personal information to yourself. There is no need to tell a stranger: How much money you make. Whether you rent or own. The trust fund that you will have access to next month. You divorced your husband because you caught him in bed three times, with 3 people. (And please don’t tell them, you took him back twice...because he said he wouldn’t do it again!)
Giving this information to an online stranger is the same as putting this information on the front page of worldwide newspapers!
Do you have any idea what can be done with this information? If not, online dating is not for you...you are way too naïve!
Remember at all time, you are responsible for making your online dating experience safe.
Please be concerned, if someone insists on wanting the following information:
Where do you work, and what are your hours? Who do you live with? Aren’t you afraid being alone at night? Do you still have a good relationship with your children’s father? Do you consider your neighbors to be your friends? How often do you have your children?
When you are dealing with online dating scammers and con artists, the answer to each of these questions gives them a valuable “clue” to who you are. From these clues, they are able to develop “keys”...to be used by them...
Do not set yourself up to be scammed. There is a way to avoid this, if you know how.
Once you know exactly how to deal with an online con artist, they will disappear! That is the first clue that you busted them, and beat them at their own game!
I’m not making these questions up...I have been asked these exact same questions...
Be leery of anyone that constantly pries into personal areas.
About The Author Vivian Johnson
I have been involved in online dating since it's inception!
Yes...I have received a diamond wedding set via FedEx, from a very eligible bachelor.
Wouldn't you like to be one of the most desirable singles on any dating site?
Wouldn't you like to "chose" instead of always waiting to be "chosen"? For A Limited Time Only-Free Internet Dating Reports ($27.value) http://www.realinternetdating411.com/freereports.html
Dating Site Tricks
There are so many single people online looking for love and companionship. That makes us easy targets for a variety of scams and tricks. Here are just a few...
The Fictitious Member- The fact that you have signed up for their free trial shows you are interested in their site. But, they would rather have you as a paying member. At the most opportune time...you receive a lengthy email from the man of your dreams!
This is the first time he has joined an online dating site, and personally doesn’t care for it. He is only looking for one good woman, and based on your profile...it could be you!
You join in order to respond to your “internet dream”. Only to have him totally disappear.
New Members In Your Area- Every few days, they will have a photo shuffle of all of the new members that are in your area. This is done for two reasons:
1. It gives you the impression that this site is continually getting new members in your area, so you want to stay here. If not, you may miss “the one” and you will have no one to blame but yourself!
2. By showing these photos, it will increase the email traffic to all of the members in the photo shuffle.
The trick? Most of these members (in the photo shuffle) are no longer paying members. So, when they suddenly have a mail box full of new messages, they will upgrade to a paying member in order to read and respond to the sudden boat load of messages!
They have killed two birds with one stone: you keep your membership current to keep from missing the new guys in your area. And...it increases the renewal membership from the men paraded in the photo shuffle.
As with everything else: If it looks too good to be true? It probably is!
About The Author Vivian Johnson
I have been involved in online dating since it's inception!
Yes...I have received a diamond wedding set via FedEx, from a very eligible bachelor.
Wouldn't you like to be one of the most desirable singles on any dating site?
Wouldn't you like to "chose" instead of always waiting to be "chosen"? For A Limited Time Only-Free Internet Dating Reports ($27.value) http://www.realinternetdating411.com/freereports.html
The Fictitious Member- The fact that you have signed up for their free trial shows you are interested in their site. But, they would rather have you as a paying member. At the most opportune time...you receive a lengthy email from the man of your dreams!
This is the first time he has joined an online dating site, and personally doesn’t care for it. He is only looking for one good woman, and based on your profile...it could be you!
You join in order to respond to your “internet dream”. Only to have him totally disappear.
New Members In Your Area- Every few days, they will have a photo shuffle of all of the new members that are in your area. This is done for two reasons:
1. It gives you the impression that this site is continually getting new members in your area, so you want to stay here. If not, you may miss “the one” and you will have no one to blame but yourself!
2. By showing these photos, it will increase the email traffic to all of the members in the photo shuffle.
The trick? Most of these members (in the photo shuffle) are no longer paying members. So, when they suddenly have a mail box full of new messages, they will upgrade to a paying member in order to read and respond to the sudden boat load of messages!
They have killed two birds with one stone: you keep your membership current to keep from missing the new guys in your area. And...it increases the renewal membership from the men paraded in the photo shuffle.
As with everything else: If it looks too good to be true? It probably is!
About The Author Vivian Johnson
I have been involved in online dating since it's inception!
Yes...I have received a diamond wedding set via FedEx, from a very eligible bachelor.
Wouldn't you like to be one of the most desirable singles on any dating site?
Wouldn't you like to "chose" instead of always waiting to be "chosen"? For A Limited Time Only-Free Internet Dating Reports ($27.value) http://www.realinternetdating411.com/freereports.html
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